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Rye on Prematurity

Kissing a cock after a sensual facial cumshot

Today I was very much reminded that one of the things I want to do with this blog is to normalize a whole bunch of different aspects of male sexuality and show people that there are valuable reasons to be just as sensitive to its issues as we try to be with women’s sexuality.  Rye of Uncommon Appetites took to their blog to explain a phenomenon that had been happening to him lately…  He’s been experiencing ejaculation sooner than he would like.

Essentially, his masturbatory habits have become less frequent over time for a variety of reasons and he’s left with a lot more pent-up sexual energy.  He loves pleasing his lovely partner Violet with his hands/mouth/toys, but she also loves it when they have penetrative sex, so they eventually get to a place where the penetrative sex just doesn’t last as long as they want.

This is where things get especially amazing…  They spoke about it together and came up with a solution that totally worked for both of them.  Instead of retreating out of shame or confusion or continuing on, just thinking that something might one day change, they took action.  What did they figure out?  He just needed to come once and get it out of the way and then he’d have a much easier time afterwards.

So, they went right to penetrative sex, they had a bit of fun and he ejaculated, then they kissed and played around until he was ready for round two, which was exactly what they needed.  Perfect, right?

On top of making very sexy videos and sharing lovely glimpses into their lives, Violet+Rye are also real examples of making sex work.  We all go through peaks and valleys, we all have things that sometimes interfere with the natural progression we’d like, but there are ways to communicate, explore, try things and work out a solution.

If you’re having any issues with any degree of premature ejaculation, this is a really great strategy to try.  Who knows?  It might work for you!

Have you ever had a little hurdle to get over, sexually speaking?  What did you do and what did you try?

Violet and Xmas Lights


I know that I am definitely a bit of a cheerleader for Violet and Rye of Uncommon Appetites.  This isn’t the first time they’ve been mentioned here…  Not by a long shot.  But just take a look at Violet’s seductive body as she dances around with these xmas lights and tell me you’re not right there with me, waving your hands and hollering for this loving, creative and intelligent couple.


Once you’re done watching this breathtaking film, which alternates between sweetness and straight seduction, I hope you’ll head over to their site and read everything they’re up to, because they’re as clever and candid as they are extremely hot.  Right now they’re tackling squirting, dry-spells and enjoying the sensual pleasures of food just as much as the sensual pleasures of sex.  Oh, and they’ve recently come out to their friends about what they do on the internet…  It’s hard not to be enamoured by them…  I’m sure you’ll see why I love them so!

Violet and Rye Take on the Good Porn Problem

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You all know that I love Violet and Rye of Uncommon Appetites.  I always #FF them on Twitter, I refer to them frequently here and we’re just generally very chummy.  That is because we have something in common.  Actually, we have many things in common, but one thing in particular…  We wish there was more good porn.  Don’t we all?


What does that mean?  Well, it’s not something that is represented very well in mainstream porn and, though amateur porn sometimes has the right spirit, it isn’t executed in the right way to really achieve the end result.  Violet and Rye managed to capture the essence of what makes “good porn” quite succinctly:


-We want people to tease us.
-To show us some of what we want.
-To show us something we didn’t KNOW we wanted.
-To hold back other bits.
-To enjoy the sex they’re having, genuinely.
-To not be too stagey, but put a little thought into it.
-To be brief, but not too brief.


Not to turn this into a humble brag, but that’s what we’re trying to do with The Art of Blowjob and Pornographic Love and, as evidenced from the video I included at the beginning of this post, it’s what they’re trying to do too.  As they validly point out, it takes money.  Not any more money than mainstream porn, in fact much less, but more than nothing.  We need more people to come out and be willing to share their skills, sexuality and understanding of the nuances of making something that’s genuinely erotic, then I think that good porn (or beautiful porn!) will find its footing in the industry and become profitable enough for it to be a large segment of adult entertainment.


You can read the rest of their (very intelligent) thoughts on the issue here, and I’d love to know what you think…  How do we make the dream of a porn industry populated with a more diverse array of beautiful porn?

Spitting or Swallowing


This really funny video was sent to me today from Violet and Rye of Uncommon Appetites and, while hilarious, it also raises a very good point about blowjobs.  I thought I’d expand a little on the premise of spitting vs. swallowing so that we can all take stock of what’s really important and why.


As far as I’m concerned, there are two camps in this: people with a real cum fetish and people without one.  If you have a real cum fetish, seeing your partner swallow (or receive a facial, or snowball, or what have you) is important to your sexual experience.  If that’s the case, or if you end up with someone with this fetish, it’s important to give it the old college try as much as possible.  If it’s totally a no go, then at least you can say you’ve attempted it and attempted to get past it.


That said, if you’re just a standard blowjob enthusiast, the what your partner does with the end result is pretty much up to them.  I discourage making faces or acting grossed out because, let’s face it, it’s still coming from your lover’s body.  The most important thing is to be respectful of limitations in this case, and enjoy the fact that you’re getting a blowjob at all.  :)

Violet + Rye = Hot


Violet and Rye of Uncommon Appetites are pretty awesome and sexy, so I figured I’d share a little post the put up recently on the subject of honesty with your significant others:



We wrote about this quite a bit in the early days of the blog, but now it’s just a thing we do, so it’s fun to think about the roots sometimes.

After being a few years into our relationship, we began to really explore each other in ways that neither of us had with other people. We dug into anal play, spanking, some light bondage, sex toys, mutual masturbation, sexting and all sorts of other fun shit. Then it came time to talk about porn. In the past, I had a partner that frowned upon it in a major way. And also frowned upon sex. So naturally, I was well versed in not only jerking off to porn, but in hiding it.

So I hid it for a while from V. Which is ridiculous, because she’s incredibly open-minded and about the coolest woman you’ll ever meet. She in no way fits any media stereotype about women, as many of our female readers also don’t. Because fuck that stereotypical bullshit! Women are horny too!



Anyway, we started talking about what kinds of porn we like. And then would share our ideas of good porn. It became a sort of challenge to hit on exactly what the other person would enjoy. And it just so happens that we like very similar things in our porn. Then one day, we stumbled upon a blog, written by a couple, that we really, really enjoyed. And we got to talking.

At first, it was just going to be stories and photos/videos we found that we enjoyed.

But then we took a few photos. And got a better camera. And talked about a video. And then another video.


We find, more and more that the world lacks the type of porn we enjoy. So we’ve begun setting out to make the kind of material we want to see. Photos are plentiful and delicious, but videos are really lacking. With Vimeo and new dSLR’s making artistic and stylish videos easier than ever, it seems silly that the porn world hasn’t gotten there yet. We’re hoping to help lead the charge, along with a select few people that have been there before us. A certain redhead has provided some inspiration, as most of our readers know by now.


Violet and Rye on Video


Since you’re on my blog, you’re probably a big fan of beautiful porn…  Right?  And you’ve probably already heard me talk all about Violet and Rye from Uncommon Appetites.  I really love these two.  They’re in love, they’re passionate, they’re creative and they’re very free about themselves.  Because they both have day jobs, they can’t show their faces or parts of their bodies with easily identifiable tattoos, but that hasn’t stopped them from sharing their gorgeous sexuality with the world.


The clip above is their second foray into video, which features both of them enjoying sensual pleasures and exploring each other’s bodies.  There’s this incredible surge of energy that I get from watching this video.  It certainly doesn’t hurt that they’re both really hot, but there’s more to it than just that.  Sometimes you just watch people and see that they have it, whatever it is.  Asides from all that, they’ve already expanded their cinematic horizons, using natural light and really great music to create a truly beautiful video.


At any rate, I hope you’ll enjoy this video and that you’ll spend some time over at their site after you’re done watching it.  It’s definitely worth going back to the beginning and watching their experiences together unfold.