Tag Archives: Sex

Sex Scenes in Films

Camille giving a sweet stroking handjob

This is an interesting article that has been making its way around the porn-related part of the interwebs today from the New York Times… It’s a little on the academic side, but it gets to address the idea that some people get really freaked out and upset when there’s “pornographic” sex in movies, especially when it’s not the most authentic representation of sex. I’m not talking a nude scene here, but actual sex scenes.

The author of the piece (Mireille Miller-Young) suggests that there’s something pretty wrong about how flagrantly up in arms people get about sex in films (and all pop culture, really) when it’s actually explicit or accurate, given how poor most places are about educating their public about sex, but also that it’s understandable when it comes to people who feel like the depiction is just for titillation, and not actually sincere. If anything, more inclusion of sex would benefit those watching the movies, who might be inspired to learn a bit more about themselves or their partners, but only if it’s realistic…

She continues to suggest that, in fact, sex in porn itself has a lot more to offer an audience than a Hollywood film, so maybe we shouldn’t be so concerned with labels like “pornographic” and be more concerned about showing what sex could be. What do you think? Do you think porn can be a good tool for visibility of different ways of having sex? Do you think that mainstream films could ever catch up to sharing authentic sex?

The First Time You Saw

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Cleavage and cock together

I got a really interesting question the other day from someone who reached out to me via e-mail, and I figured I would pose it to all of you so we can start a nice little discussion… What did you think when you first saw genitals other than your own? This can mean just about anything. Maybe a partner, maybe a friend, maybe in porn… Maybe in a sexual way, or maybe in a non-sexual way.

I think there is something so fascinating about the human body. I remember always feeling a great deal of curiosity, mixed with a kind of shyness that is hard to shake at first. But it makes you wonder about your own body and also about this other body, which feels beautiful and strange and familiar all at once.

How about you? What have your experiences been like in seeing other bodies up close and personal or on film? I’m sure our collective stories will create a really fascinating look at the way we come to understand ourselves and each other in this beautifully basic and human way. So, here we go!

Sexual Epiphany

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Stroking and smiling with my eyes as I point your cock into my mouth

This piece from Good Men Project really piqued my attention, so I figured I’d share and see if you felt the same way. The idea is that, while a lot of relationships end up lacking in sexual passion, it’s not exclusively the fault of the person who is seen as holding back or withholding sex.

In fact, it’s not just about relationships, really. It’s just a shift of consciousness where the sexuality is in our hands, regardless of anyone else. Steve Horsmon (the author) said it best:

The sexual epiphany I am talking about is the point in a man’s life when thinking, wondering, and worrying changes into leading, romancing and enjoying. This epiphany does not just happen with age. It must be earned. It is simple but not easy. If it were easy, every guy would be doing it and would be happy with his sex life.

Regardless of whether it’s a man or a woman having this epiphany, I think it’s pretty important, and even outside of sex. It’s the realization that no one else is responsible for your happiness if you’re not willing to be an active participant too. You create your own magnetism by being genuinely excited about life, about yourself and about your partner. I think it’s a pretty lovely way to live.

What do you think? Do you think this all sounds to simple, or are there nuggets of truth in there? Read the rest of the article and let me know!

Penis Moisturizer?

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Camille Crimson kissing a cock during a sensual blowjob

Someone came to me with a question today, specifically wondering if circumcised penises should be moisturized. I had never really thought about this, but it is skin like any other, and it can be a little more prone to drying out without a foreskin, I suppose. So, I went to Google to see what the internet had for me.

Turns out there actually is a specific penis moisturizer. The website includes a stock photo of a penis-shaped cactus. You can’t make this stuff up. There is clearly a market for this. I don’t think you necessarily need this particular product… Any absorbing moisturizer without harsh chemicals should be fine. You could even do a more thorough penis treatment every so often… Maybe something with oils. Though, you’d probably just end up getting turned on, having an orgasm, making a mess and having to wipe it all off. That’s just a guess. :P

That said, there are a few things you should be careful about. For one, moisturizer doesn’t taste great, so maybe wait a bit before getting a blowjob or opt for an unscented lotion. Another reason to wait a while before any kind of sex is that there’s a chance of irritation if you’re having vaginal sex without a condom. AND, if you are using a condom, the moisturizer may impact the integrity of the condom material or make it easier to slip off. Basically, if you’re going to moisturize, I’d suggest doing so well before anything sexy happens with someone else.

It seems like the general wisdom about keeping your penis soft outside of moisturizing is avoiding drying soaps, using lube, drinking enough water… But if you need a little extra help, there’s definitely no harm in pumping out some Jergens. ;)

How about you? Have you ever experienced a dry penis? And if you were to use lotion… Would it invariably end up as masturbation? ;)

Masturbation Month

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Camille Crimson having an orgasm

Did you know that May is masturbation month? Well, if you didn’t, now you do. As someone who works in porn, obviously I’m very pro-masturbation, but it’s interesting to hear about people who have mixed feelings about their own masturbation habits. A lot of people have some degree of shame around the issue, and I hope that they’ll be able to find a way to enjoy themselves on their own terms.

I think that there are differences in the kinds of shames we feel as men and women to a certain extent, but it all comes down to the concern that we’re going to be seen as perverts for enjoying our bodies… Like there’s something gross about doing so. For men, I think it’s somewhat linked to feeling less than for having sex alone instead of with a partner. The term “wanker” in the UK has given wanking quite a bad wrap for men. As for women, it’s seen as something that good girls just don’t do… Women’s sexuality and pleasure is just so misunderstood that way.

The only way we can really combat this is by enjoying ourselves and trying to be unashamed. It’s hard to get over this kind of stigma, but loving yourself, getting to know your body and experiencing pleasure are all such important aspects of your sexual self and life. What do you think? Have you ever been made to feel ashamed about masturbating? Is it something that you enjoy? Do you ever speak openly about it with people in your life?

Sex and Music

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Sexy Camille Crimson nude

Here’s another Q+A Question that has been wandering around my mind lately:

I’d like to hear your thoughts on the relationship between music and sex (and sexuality in general) and how you go about finding music for the video soundtracks – you seem to have a very diverse and eclectic set of artists to choose from.

For one, I’m always so happy when people like the kinds of music we use in our videos. They’re definitely not just slapped on there and we take the time to peruse to find what would really work for each film. We use Jamendo, which is an amazing place to find creative commons music.

We tend to stick mostly to the soft, hypnotic side of things, but sometimes we play a bit more with trip hop/hip hop, experimental jazz and even metal for one often-requested title. There are often lyrics that kind of fit the feeling, but instrumentals work quite nicely too when we can’t find anything that both sounds like and is textually relevant to the action.

From time to time, I’ve recorded and shared my own music, including all throughout our DVD. Sometimes that’s the best way of all to have exactly the right music to accentuate the mood, but it’s a lot more labour-intensive. ;)

It’s funny… We don’t listen to music when we shoot, and we don’t often when we have sex either, because I think our intimacy is all the sensuality we need in the moment. But, I think that music fills in that gap of intimacy perfectly when making videos. It adds that swelling feeling, that seduction, that intensity that can never quite perfectly translate from the physical to the purely visual. It adds an extra element of warmth somehow. I think that’s why we see it so important to our filmmaking process.

Hopefully this link will make you giggle, all about the music people have sex to. So, I was wondering… What music would you/do you listen to during sex, and maybe even… What would be on the soundtrack of our videos if you could choose?