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Harriet Sugarcookie on What To Do If You Get Caught Masturbating!

HarrietSugarcookie.com

HarrietSugarcookie.com

Have you ever been caught masturbating? If it hasn’t happened to you yet, it’s maybe because you are not masturbating enough 😛 Here’s what Harriet Sugarcookie tells you to do if ever your girlfriend walks in on your masturbating!

The moment someone walks in on you, your whole body tenses up. You go into panic mode. You practically die of embarrassment, and in that moment your head isn’t thinking clearly. It’s in this state of panic that you might do or say something that makes the situation worse. 

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Piper Blush Is Hosting #SexTalkTuesday!

Ever wanted to talk to Piper Blush?

On Oct 4th You Can!

She will be hosting #SexTalkTuesday on Twitter :)

How Can You Participate?

Log in to your Twitter Account on October 4th, a little before 3 pm Est. The chat will last until 4 pm Est.

To see the tweets Go To @SexTalkTuesday.

Every 10 minutes or so, you will see a new question pop. In this format: 

Q1 How big of a place do you wish #oralsex to occupy in your #sexlife. Weekly, more/less? #SexTalkTuesday

Q2 How can you #ask your partner for more #oralsex? Give us ideas. #SexTalkTuesday

Q3 #Giving, what do you think can make you a better giver of #oralsex, and why? #SexTalkTuesday

Q4 #Receiving, what do you think can make you a better receiver of #oralsex, and why? #SexTalkTuesday

Q5 Give us some of your favorite #oralsex techniques. Don’t be afraid of being graphic. It’s what #SexTalkTuesday is for!

You can Get Engaged in the conversation by answering the questions or re-sharing information.

Don’t Forget To Include the #sextalktuesday in all of your tweets, or they will not be posted on @SexTalkTuesday’s feed.

Thanks to Sssh.com and SexTalkTuesday.com for having me moderate #SexTalkTuesday.

Do You Masturbate While In A Relationship?

There’s a great article for May Masturbation Month, I found it on SluttyGirlProblems, make sure you go check it out!

Here’s what inspired me about this article and what I thought I should share with you!

“Why masturbate when he has me?”

I, Piper Blush, have nothing against masturbation. I masturbate really often! I am single, I can in bulge all my masturbation fantasies without having to worry about another persons feelings.

I feel like masturbation is a very personal act. It has nothing to do with sex, but all to do with spending time with yourself. I couldn’t imagine getting all my pleasure form one person, and being forced to wait for that person to have he same urges as me. I need to be in control of some things in my life, like to deciding when I want to have an orgasm.

I feel it’s also important to know how to give yourself orgasms, to know what you like and dislike. That way you can express your need to your partner.

SluttyGirlProblems

SluttyGirlProblems

Why Do People Masturbate instead of Having Sex?

As said in the article on SluttyGirlProblems, “there seems to be an inaccurate belief in some people that we only masturbate because real sex isn’t available to us. Once real sex is available, then masturbation should stop. In fact, they can’t understand why anyone would choose masturbation over relationship sex.

If you masturbate in front of your partner does it mean you are having sex? Let’s say sex means penetration. Masturbation is usually something you do alone and once you have sex you masturbate a little less. I like to keep on masturbating even when I have a partner. I feel it empowering and my sex drive is not affected by it at all. All the contrary, the more I masturbate the more I want sex, I guess that’s why I’m a porn star 😉

SluttyGirlProblems

SluttyGirlProblems

Some Reasons Take SluttyGirlProblems:

    1. It’s quick and easy.
    2. So I can focus on myself, and not have to worry about the partner’s needs.
    3. I can’t sleep.
    4. I’m bored.
    5. I had 5 minutes to spare.
    6. Because I wanted to do it and I like it.
    7. Because she was on her period.
    8. Because my partner didn’t want sex.
    9. Wife just gave birth.
    10. Just want an orgasm, without fuss.
    11. Partner is sick.
    12. So I am satisfied when I’m away.
    13. It’s fun.

My favorites are 3, 4, 10 and 13.

SluttyGirlProblems

SluttyGirlProblems

Do’s And Don’t of Online Dating!

Does

Be honest about what you’re looking for!

You can use dating applications as much for sex as to find a soulmate! If you want to surf the waves of life, just write that you are open to whatever. You are on the internet not in real life, you don’t know those people and they don’t know you! So don’t be shy, ask for want you really want. The worst that can happen is that you get a ‘No’, it is better than spending an entire date with a crazy 70 years old cat lover!

Research!

Google your date! Use all you can find, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. That way you get a better idea of who they are. To be on the safe side, choose a dating app that is linked to your social media. If there is not that many pictures on their profil, you will not really know what they look like. Be careful if their account has not been active for over a year, though some people are still not very active on those platforms a year could mean fraud. You can also learn if they are already engaged in a relationship and are only looking for some casual extracurricular activities.

Piper Blush

Piper Blush

Meet in a Public or  Safe Space!

Meeting in public is the safest thing to do. You can always escape or scream for help! You can also take the risky road and invite that special person to your place or go to theirs. If you choose to do so, be sure to tell a friend were you are going to be or with whom, check in with that friend every hour or so just to be on the safe side. Be up-front with your date, if they’re interested in you, they will respect your desire for safety!

 

Don’t

 No limits!

If you hit it off with a person and start having feelings for her,don’t limit yourself. It’s not because you found her on Tinder that it can’t be true love! You can always invent a ‘How You Meet Story’ :)

 

Stalk Just Enough!

There are downsides at stalking your futur date too intensely on the internet. You might get the wrong idea about your date. First, it’s easy to judge when you only have access to party pictures! Second, if ever you spill out the beans on something they did not tell you yet you can look really creepy.

No Guilt about Wanting to be Safe!

If your date gives you a hard time about safety precautions on the first meeting too, let them go. There is plenty profils on the internet!

 

You can read the real article on: SluttyGirlProblems

 

 

 

Pigging Out on Porn, from The Beautiful Kind!

I just thought that the beautiful sex-positive activist Kendra Holliday had taken words out of my mouth, when I read how she described TheArtofBlowjob. I will let you discover her blog The Beautiful Kind and the many treasures hidden within it…

Pigging Out on Porn, By Kendra Holliday 

What is your relationship to porn? Do you use porn to relieve stress, as a diversion, as a partner substitute, or as a cheap date? Do you respect porn stars and acknowledge they are athletic models of sexual prowess, or do you regard them as social pariahs? (If that’s the case, why are they called “stars”??)

Do you surf free sites until you find something you fancy? That’s like digging through fast food dumpsters for freebies.

Or do you subscribe to a porn star’s site in order to view quality porn and support the person who is getting naked and fucking for your entertainment? These sites can even be educational as well as incredibly sexy. A great example is The Art of Blowjob, which promotes beautiful and respectful sex. YES, facials can be done with love!

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I’ve been thinking a lot about porn lately.

I LOVE me some porn. One of my favorite junk food sites is HornBunny – it focuses on incest fantasies. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched this clip of “Daughter Being Talked into Sucking and Fucking Dad.” It’s so wrong and creepy and gets me off every time!

But I’ve noticed porn has been affecting people’s sex lives in negative ways a lot lately – even in MY bedroom!

I enjoy a healthy, happy sex life with my partner, and three times in a row together, he was not able to orgasm. This was unusual for us, so I asked him about it. Naturally, I thought he was losing attraction to me, but he assured me that was not the case. (This is a good example of communicating with your partner – don’t make assumptions and fill in the blanks!)

So he thought about it, and realized that he had taken up a tumblr porn habit as of late – he had it installed on his phone, and would pull it up to view throughout the day during any down or wait time. This messed with his vibe, like snacking on potato chips all day, so that by the time he sat down to dinner, he was no longer hungry.

So he uninstalled it from his phone, and within a week, our sex life was back on track.

I see this happening with a lot of my clients – they don’t have a steady partner, so they use porn as a substitute. They become so dependent on porn, that by the time they get with a real person again, they don’t know how to handle the real person energy – their intimacy psyche is warped and numb.

One of my clients was very porn dependent – he watched it at least an hour a day. When he made a conscious decision to kick the habit, he found himself in a sexual relationship within a month!

I encourage you to think about your relationship with porn – can you enjoy it in a healthy way that benefits you, the porn stars, and the people around you?

Porn is a part of our social fabric. Step back and think about your porn habit – what you watch, and how often, and see if you can’t make adjustments to your routine that will steer you in a more positive direction.

Use the power of porn for GOOD!

Why Do We Have Sex?

I have a confession to make: I’m not having sex right now. At all. I’m taking a break from dating while I do some Sophie-related soul searching, and this includes even the casual, easy ongoing fling I’ve had for the past… Almost year. With a boy I really liked who suited my tastes and weirdnesses to a T… But, that’s neither here nor there. It is HARD, and the fact that I write about sex and spend a tremendous amount of my day around porn has made sure that my mind is on it even more than it already would be, but do you know what? That’s okay. I’m doing the best thing I know to do for myself right now, as suggested by my very innovative and persuasive therapist. All this is temporary, and it should lead to a happier me, if a super sexually frustrated me over the next few months. It’s been a week, but a rough one.

The main reason I’m doing this is because I want to look at the reasons I’m intimate and make sure they’re actually making me happy and making my life better instead of worse. Neutral would be okay too, but definitely not worse. Well, wouldn’t you know that the university just a few blocks away from me (University of Toronto – site of the Feminist Porn Conference!) is in the process of studying why people have sex and how that rates in terms of satisfaction and well-being? They’re only doing this work with couples (for now) so I’m not likely to become a lab rat for them, but at least I can look at their findings and apply them to my life, and perhaps to yours as well!

They found that when you’re having sex for positive reasons, you’re likely to have a much better time than if you’re having sex for negative reasons. This may seem obvious, but I don’t think it’s something people put much stock in. Positive reasons like increasing intimacy and connection or feeling better about yourself are more inclined to put you in touch with your partner and yourself and revelling in your sensuality together for its own sake, whereas doing it because you feel like you should or because it will smooth over a fight… Not so much. Wifely duties shouldn’t be a thing, and that goes for any other partnerly duties, too. A slave to duty is just that… And if you’re going to be a slave, you better have a safeword!

Sex is a wonderful thing, and we should all be having more of it (though not me right now, I guess) but it’s valuable to take a step back and make sure we’re feeling good about what’s going on. There’s something to be said for giving pleasure rather than focusing only on receiving it, for rallying and for making a concerted effort to promote intimacy, but there’s work on the self that must be done to ensure that this is a positive choice rather than self-coersion. You shouldn’t ever have to talk yourself into sex. That’s very different than making time for it or making it a priority. By checking in with ourselves, we’ll be able to enjoy it infinitely more.