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About Me

Well, it looks like I’m not going anywhere, so I might as well share a little bit about who I am.

So hi. I’m Sophie. As we’ve established, I work for The Art of Blowjob. I have always taken care of the social media, blogging, writing, PR, marketing and so on, but I’ve also taken on additional work pertaining to business development, public speaking, more academic writing, directing and editing. Now I also perform. I’m like a girl Friday, now with blowjobs! I’ve been with the company for over four years now and beautiful porn is a very big part of my life, both onscreen and off. When I’m not working on my day job, I shoot porn for a local community-based porn collective and I also help with making DIY sex tapes at a local sex club. Oh, and I host a monthly sexy storytelling event called Tell Me Something Good. AND I have restarted my burlesque act. Phew.

It sounds kind of funny to be talking about myself, but some folks have mentioned that they’re curious, so I’ll run through some more of the personal aspects of myself, almost like a little list of sorts.

– I love to read. I have way too many books on my desk at any given time and at least a couple in my purse. My favourite authors are Dave Eggers, Italo Calvino, Miranda July and John Rechy. My favourite poets are Frank O’Hara, Leonard Cohen and Allen Ginsberg. My most recent favourite read is Drunk Mom by Jowita Bydlowska, which is depressing as all get out, but in a gripping way.

–  My sense of humour is verrrrry important to me, and it’s more or less shaped by the following sources: The Simpsons (only season 1-10), Arrested Development, Community (only seasons 1-3), 30 Rock, Clerks Animated, Achewood, Harvey Birdman: Attorney at Law, classic Woody Allen movies (I have a problem with him, but I can’t deny that Manhattan, Annie Hall and Hannah and her Sisters left an imprint on my comedic psyche), Kate Beaton of Hark, a Vagrant and the comedy stylings of Jon Mulaney, Rob Delaney and DeAnne Smith. And probably lots of other things, but that’s what comes to mind. Suffice it to say, funny is sexy and witty banter is extremely important to me.

– I actually come from an all singing, all dancing background. I studied opera extensively, focused on jazz/contemporary dance and somehow parlayed that into directing/choreographing/vocal coaching for musical theatre, which I still do on the side. I’m also on and off in a really cool choir… Yes, such a thing exists.

– Relatedly, I have very little free time.

– Cooking and baking are some of my favourite things. I can whip up a risotto like nobody’s business, bake the best cornbread ever and make a mac and cheese that’d rival any mother’s recipe. And yes, I make many healthier options, too. My favourite thing is to infuse florals into my baking, so I’m always grinding lavender into brownies or using elderflower syrup in a cupcake. I also used to work as a cake decorator, so I have weird precision when I actually put my mind to it. I WILL bake you cookies.

– I realize I’m treading on well-worn ground, but I love Scotch. I’m half Scottish (and the other half is a mix of mostly Irish, some English and a smidgen of French) so I come by it honestly. I have a soft spot for Aberlour (especially the 15 year or the a’bunadh Spanish cask[!!!]), Oban, Glenmorangie, The Balvenie, Auchentoshan (18 year if possible, but I honestly quite like their 12 for everyday at home tippling) and, for my specific roots, the 18 year Talisker. I’m pretty open to different styles. I like it smooth, smoky, peaty, so I’ll also gladly do Lagavulin or Laphroig… Basically, if you have a decent Scotch, I’m there.

– When I’m not doing Scotch, I’m in it for a Hendrick’s gin and tonic, a dirty gin martini or a well-crafted cocktail from someone who knows what they’re doing and may or may not have basil, mint, rose water or lavender.

– As I have a musical background, I’m all about music. I love going to (smallish) shows and devour new music like some sort of a music-devouring animal. Some favourites include: Kishi Bashi, Basia Bulat, Sufjan Stevens, Beirut, Joni Mitchell, LCD Soundsystem, HAIM, Gentleman Reg, Robyn, Grimes, Evening Hymns, Caribou… Yeah. Lots more, but I don’t want to exhaust you.

– Outside of that which I’ve already mentioned in the comedy category, my favourite movies are West Side Story, Shortbus, Cabaret, The Muppet Movie, Me You and Everyone We Know, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Empire Records and, I’ll be real here, Clueless. My tastes are eclectic. As for TV, on top of the aforementioned humour-shaping shows, I have deep love for The West Wing, Orange is the New Black, Freaks and Geeks, Bob’s Burgers, Parks and Recreation, Louie, The Daily Show and the Colbert Report.

– So, documentaries are their own category because I love them so much. The Hot Docs festival is like my Christmas. My favourites of all time are: Beauty is Embarrassing, Paris is Burning, Bad Blood, Whores’ Glory, Serving Life, How to Survive a Plague, Punk Singer and so on. So much on. So much.

– A few of my favourite things: puppets (making, playing with, watching), makeup, green juices, very sweaty workouts, going to the nude beach, just about any sexuality-related social/political cause, yoga, brunch, cats and dogs, walking around my favourite cities, karaoke, doing little crafty things, Thai/Vietnamese/Indian/Mexican foods, playing my ukulele, tending to my little windowsill/balcony garden… The list goes on, and I’m sure I’ll expand on these various passions.

So, that’s (some of) me. What about you?

Geek Girls Are Real

Upworthy shared this video, and I wanted to share it with all of you.  Although I certainly spend a lot of time here talking about porn and sex, I also spend a certain amount of it talking about gender and about my own personal interests (outside of porn, sex and gender, of course) including some of my geekier proclivities.  Luckily, I haven’t been subject of much speculation on whether or not I’m geeky enough, but it’s tremendously common for women, especially those in sexier professions.

This song is pretty and catchy, but it’s the smiling faces of proud geek girls who really make it, and the simple defiance that they don’t have to prove anything.  It’s nice to have passions and interests and to feel a sense of community, and to have people bully you and tell you that you can’t really love what you love because you’re a girl (or you’re pretty/sexy/seem cool…) is a real shame.

On top of the lovely music by The Doubleclicks and some very special geek guest stars, it’s just a lovely message.  What do you take from it?  Do you think anyone can be a geek?  They do say that we shall inherit the earth.  😛

Geeky Kitten Ukulele Song

Sophie sent this along to me because she knows this lovely comedian by the name of DeAnne Smith, who is a Montreal local.  Apparently she has been doing this song (among others) in her act for a while, but this is the first time that she used the internet’s secret ingredient…  A kitten!  And the internet approves heartily!

Now she’s gone viral, and I can definitely see why this video would make its way into my hot little hands…  For one, it’s on a ukulele, which is right up my alley.  It’s about sexy, geeky pick-up lines and, though she’s missing much on the gaming/Mac/coding front, she still gets top marks for her wit and knowledge of grammar…  And then, of course, the kitten.  It’s a peppy, perky little song and the little kitten attempts to strum along, which creates some hilarious impromptu (one-way) banter.

What do you think of this?  Is it a little TOO cute, or are these puns right on the money for you?  And, who plays the ukulele better?  Deanne, or her furry friend?  It’s nice to share a little Montreal content here, especially since it fits so many little quirks of my personality so nicely.  I hope it fits with yours too!

Sex and Music

Sexy Camille Crimson nude

Here’s another Q+A Question that has been wandering around my mind lately:

I’d like to hear your thoughts on the relationship between music and sex (and sexuality in general) and how you go about finding music for the video soundtracks – you seem to have a very diverse and eclectic set of artists to choose from.

For one, I’m always so happy when people like the kinds of music we use in our videos.  They’re definitely not just slapped on there and we take the time to peruse to find what would really work for each film.  We use Jamendo, which is an amazing place to find creative commons music.

We tend to stick mostly to the soft, hypnotic side of things, but sometimes we play a bit more with trip hop/hip hop, experimental jazz and even metal for one often-requested title.  There are often lyrics that kind of fit the feeling, but instrumentals work quite nicely too when we can’t find anything that both sounds like and is textually relevant to the action.

From time to time, I’ve recorded and shared my own music, including all throughout our DVD.  Sometimes that’s the best way of all to have exactly the right music to accentuate the mood, but it’s a lot more labour-intensive.  😉

It’s funny…  We don’t listen to music when we shoot, and we don’t often when we have sex either, because I think our intimacy is all the sensuality we need in the moment.  But, I think that music fills in that gap of intimacy perfectly when making videos.  It adds that swelling feeling, that seduction, that intensity that can never quite perfectly translate from the physical to the purely visual.  It adds an extra element of warmth somehow.  I think that’s why we see it so important to our filmmaking process.

Hopefully this link will make you giggle, all about the music people have sex to.  So, I was wondering…  What music would you/do you listen to during sex, and maybe even…  What would be on the soundtrack of our videos if you could choose?

Sex as Jamming

I love an astute observation and a good analogy when it comes to sex, and this video is rife with both of them.  Also, as someone musically inclined, it’s right up my alley.  This lovely and charming video by Canadian sex educator Karen B. K. Chang is an excellent way of understanding sex…  as a musical jam.

It’s drawn/mixed media stop motion video created for the SexEd Project.  I think it’s really brilliant.  It preaches knowing yourself and practicing with yourself and others, collaboration, understanding sex as a process, communication, presence, an end to sexual shame, consent…  Every single comparison is perfect and are the types of things I had never thought about concretely before.

Probably the most interesting statement from this is that pleasure is a renewable resource, which is true of both sex and music…  And what a nice thought!  It’s something we can create together or alone that has no limit.  I hope this is an uplifting thought for you, and I’d love to hear if you have any prolongations for this particular analogy…  Let’s jam on the motif and see what comes up!


This is exactly the kind of weird video I like.  Sure, the concept has been around for a while, but it’s soothingly hypnotic, especially for someone like me who is so into music.  I saw Nina Hartley of all people post it the other day and it felt like a little trip down CGI memory lane.

While I do really love posting about sexuality and porn (and don’t worry, I have a whole lot of things to discuss coming down the barrel) I wanted to share something nice and relaxing today.  The music is interesting but not overwhelming, there seems to be a real rooting in the understanding of how music is made and the imagery is inventive without being jarring…  It’s peculiar, but in a lovely way.

I hope you like this little video.  I think I’ll be sticking to my guitar, flute, ukulele and piano for now, but you never know…  Maybe some day I’ll get my hands on a weird video like that.  Probably not, but you never know.  And I’d love to know if any of you recognize this kind of video and if it feels like a little memory jolt for you too!