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What To Do With Unused Semen!

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A group of leading female legislators have enacted a new bill that forbids American men from disposing of “unused” sperm, requiring them to bring any recreational semen to a nearby fertility clinic.

According to noted alternative facts specialist, Stephanie Yorke, sperm is intended for “procreation only” and not to be “wasted” on pleasure: “Any sperm not being used for the purpose of procreation must be immediately donated to a sperm bank,” Yorke warned. “Failure to do so will lead to hefty fines and ultimately, incarceration, under the new ‘Level Playing Field Bill’.”

In response, leading male medical academics have raised concerns that refraining from masturbation would be hazardous to men’s testicular health, increasing their chances of prostate cancer.

Dr. David Ambrose hit out at the bill, claiming it put American men in the very difficult position of having to father and immediately surrender a child, everytime they ejaculate. He claims this will have very negative effects on men’s long-term mental health.

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Circumcision VS Sensitivity

Cut or Uncut!

The surgical removal of the foreskin on the penis or male circumcision is a delicate subject. It is normal for men to have feelings about cutting off a part of their dick.

The CDC has officially endorsed circumcision in 2014. To be cut does have some health benefits, such as a lower risk of contracting STIs, a lower risk of contracting UDIs that could cause kidney damage.

Difference In Sensibility?

A study form the Journal of Urology suggests, that the sensitivity to heat and pain does not differ between men who are uncircumcised and circumcised.

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What Women Want!

What women want according to Queen’s University’s Sex Lab.

Women indicated a slight preference for circumcised penises for vaginal intercourse and fellatio, and held more positive beliefs about circumcised penises, while men indicated a strong preference toward intact penises for all sexual activities assessed and held more positive beliefs about intact penises. The current study demonstrates distinct gender differences in attitudes toward circumcision status but minimal impact of circumcision status on sexual functioning. 

 

Can You Compare Circumcision To FGM?

According to science, circumcision does not affect a male’s sexual fonction. Female genital mutilation(FGM) does!

During FGM, the clitoris is removed, which would be the equivalent as removing the entire penis, not only the foreskin.

If you are really looking for a comparison, you can compare circumcision to a cosmetic surgery known as labiaplasty.

Where’s the Bone in Boning?

All male mammals have penises. Did you know that humans are one of the two primate species lacking a “baculum” or penis bone!  Whales, rabbits, elephants, horses also lack a bone in their manhood.

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Where’s the bone?

Some species have a bone to help the male maintain his erection long enough to penetrate the female and deliver the sperm. This bone, baculum, is in the male’s abdomen until he needs it. When he does his abdomen muscles contract pushing into into the penis, making an hard erection.

Speed is of the essence in nature, having to wait for the penis to fill with blood is too long for many species. The male lion, thanks to his baculum, can copulate 250 times in four days.

Where’s our bone?

As stated in IFLScience:

“Well, the reason is not entirely clear, but it’s believed to be down to our mating systems and strategies. In the 30th anniversary edition of his book, The Selfish Gene, evolutionary biologist Richard Dawkins suggested the lack of a human baculum is the result of “sexual selection” by female humans looking for healthy males.

That is, having a penis that relies on “hydraulics” to become erect (rather than a bone) means there will be some males with poor erectile function. If Dawkins is right, an innate female desire to guage a male’s suitability as a mate was responsible for “selecting” a penis that shows such suitability (or lack thereof).

Interestingly, our closest living relatives, including the chimpanzee, possess penis bones, but those bones are very small. It is possible that our primate relatives may too eventually lose their bacula.

Indeed, perhaps it’s more a question of why the other great apes still have bacula, rather than why we humans lack them. Complete loss of a baculum in humans seems to just continue a trend towards baculum size reduction which is found among the great apes.”

 

 

Demonizing Male Sexuality

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This is one of the best articles I’ve read on Good Men Project in a long time, and it actually links up nicely with our recent discussion about men feeling wanted vs. needed.  This is specifically about how men’s sexuality is always seen as aggressive, how they always have to be told to back off and stop and how all of this ends up hurting everyone involved, and I totally agree.

So much of why my sites focus on the give and take, the playfulness and the joy of mutual pleasure from giving/receiving pleasure and on being neutral as opposed to having either of us always in control…  I don’t like the idea that men are always in charge, or that a woman in charge is always a kinky thing.  Humans are so much more complex than that, and it leads to bad things when men have all the responsibility, and certainly when women are intimidated by men sexually because of it.

I think that so many of the people here in this community are gentle men, or at least men who are capable of being gentle.  There are so many parts of our society who default to thinking men are always brutish, especially in sex.  This collective alone shows that this is not the only case.  But how do we spread that to everyone else?  Well, this article has 5 really great steps to do exactly that.  They want men to be allies to women in their struggles, they want men to communicate actively and listen, to be open instead of always trying to play games or seduce us by the book, to be reasonable and understanding when rejection happens and to find ways to feel beautiful in a world that doesn’t hold male beauty in high regard.

A lot of these things have been touched on here, and I think that’s wonderful.  I’m wondering, how many of you feel impacted by this notion of male sexuality as demonized?  How has this experience impacted the way you have sex, the way you see yourself as sexual and the way you interact with people in other ways?

XKCD (and Me) on Penises

 

Oh, XKCD, you never fail to make this geek giggle.  This particular comic has always resonated with me, and I feel that I come back to it a lot.  This isn’t to say that I’m sick of hearing about the totally legitimate concerns and tribulations surrounding the penis, but I do dearly wish we lived in a society where they didn’t need to be so prevalent.

 

I get asked time and time again about what I think about circumcision, as if there is a right answer.  I hear so many uncut men who are afraid that women don’t like foreskins…  I hear so many circumcised men who are worried about the sensation they may have lost…  It just makes me sad to think about all these people with such doubt about these amazing parts of their bodies.  The male ego is so much more fragile than people think, and there is so much damage done when we have such innate cultural preferences about something that’s difficult or impossible to change.  Of course, this goes beyond just penises, but that’s where my head is…  No pun intended.

 

My biggest problem is with the size dilemma, because I work in porn.  The industry pushes such a uniform penis model and it has seeped into the male consciousness so much.  When we show our porn with a totally lovely and average penis, people just don’t know what to do about it.  Some people react well, some others not so well…  It’s mostly just surprising to people.  I think that if more porn companies showed a wider range of shapes and sizes, we’d be so much better off.  For now, at least we have XKCD to be the voice of reason.