I know I’ve specifically spoken about how much I love and respect Patrick Stewart before, all for being very sexy, being a brilliant actor, being an amazing part of Star Trek and a really wonderful role model for male feminists everywhere. There’s recently been a story circulating around the internets about yet another time where he was wonderfully sweet and charming and just a kind soul.
Essentially, a young woman came to see him at Comicpalooza and asked a question: “Besides acting, what are you most proud of that you have done in you life (that you are willing to share with us)?”, which was framed around her own experiences with domestic violence and how his work with the issue had helped her to realize that it wasn’t her fault. He answered eloquently, referencing his work with Refuge (a safe house for women) and Combat Stress (his organization to combat PTSD in veterans) – both of which are related to his own past living in a home where his PTSD-afflicted dad abused his mother.
But then he checked in with her, asking if she was alright and offering a hug. So they did. Isn’t that just beautiful? He said: “You never have to go through that again, you’re safe now.” Did your heart just melt too?
I’m sure you can understand why I love this man. Read her account of the events and check out this video, where you see the hug in action. My adoration has only grown.
Reddit is great for a lot of things, but sometimes I have to say that their advice, though well-intentioned, is… Let’s just say interesting. Recently there was a thread where someone was asking what the boyfriends of Reddit would like as a random surprise. They actually came up with a number of options ranging from sweet to… Again, interesting.
Some of the ideas are nice and simple… Giving little hugs from behind, little surprise gifts, massages. That all sounds pretty normal. Then, washing him, which is a little more out there, but not exceptionally strange. It turns out a lot of men want food, which is fine, although one guy was extremely particular:
Tacos. Like, I want to have a Saturday where we’re driving to the mall or something, and suddenly she pulls out a whole tray of tacos from under the seat and is all like ‘SUPRISE! TACOS’ and then we would eat tacos.
Ladies: say it with tacos. But, there was one thing the original poster reminded everyone up front: “Please no one say BJ, i know thats at the top of everyones list.” And what ended up happening? Well, they spoke about blowjobs anyways. Extensively. So, if you don’t have a place to store tacos in your car, you can always show you care with a blowjob, even though we already know it’s the first thing the very large majority of men would like as a surprise. ;)
I’m in Miami, so this is just a quickie Q+A response, but one near and dear to my heart for a lot of reasons:
Do you get much feedback about your impact on relationships? I doubt that everyone is comfortable with the knowledge that their spouse or lover is getting off thanks to the work that you and Mike do.
We actually get a ton of really wonderful feedback from happy couples who watch our porn. Whether it’s young couples finding out what makes them tick together or older empty nesters discovering what the internet has to offer to reignite their passion, we get a ton of solid response from people who have used our porn to explore and connect together. It’s one of the nicest feelings in the world to know that we’re a little part of that.
There’s also a lot of response from people who are nervous to share what we do with their partner, so I try to help encourage people to be open without making it seem like what we do is an ideal for their relationship or that porn is necessary to keep them interested… Just to honestly share the fact that they find it interesting and sexy to see what it might be able to stoke in their relationship by watching it together. It’s amazing how well that often seems to work. Sometimes the significant other will even contact later to say that they’re happy they found out about our kind of porn.
There was even a response once from someone who was initially kind of jealous about her boyfriend’s fascination with our site, but I was able to diffuse the situation and try to contextualize to both of them that porn can be a good thing to enjoy together, but it shouldn’t be something that comes before each other.
How about you? Do any of you have stories of introducing or enjoying porn as a couple?
I’m always talking about communication as a tool to give the best blowjobs, have the best sex and experience happy, fulfilling relationships in all ways. But what does that actually mean? Dr. Jess wrote an article a while back detailing some questions that you and your partner can ask each other to check in every few months, kind of like an interview to stay updated on what’s working for them and what they want out of sex and your relationship together. Here are a couple examples I really like:
6.Name one place you’d like to have sex that we haven’t tried yet.
7.What is your favourite position?
8. If I were to initiate sex tomorrow night, how would you like me to do it?
Are these the types of questions that you’d want to check in with your partner about? What are some other ones that pop into mind? And is this something that you do, either formally or just casually when you want to make changes/make your feelings known?
I haven’t posted an interview in a while because I didn’t want to give you Camille fatigue. I certainly don’t want this blog to be a forum for me to congratulate myself all of the time… But, this is a pretty cool interview, which just happens to be for Sex.com. That’s a pretty big deal and it’s so cool that they’re so nuanced in what they asked me. It’s not your average interview, to be sure.
I thought I’d share a few of my favourite questions, all of which actually made me think:
What’s your opinion on this new(ish) genre, “couples porn”? Do you and Mike take credit for the style? (Because it does seem like “couples porn” is biting your style.)
I feel like “couples porn” is more about making porn for couples and less about being real couples making porn. What we make is definitely appropriate for couples, but also for single people… We have a really diverse audience and we don’t want to limit or target them specifically. We’re just doing what we love and we’re lucky that a lot of people really like it!
Though it’s time consuming, would you still want to run your websites and perform in scenes if it wasn’t such an independent operation?
Probably not. The reason we love what we do is that we have control over it. I don’t want to feel pressured to be aroused on command so I can shoot when I’m not in the mood. I don’t want to be coerced into showing more than I want to show or doing things that I don’t to do just because of what they think sells.
I’m so much happier shooting at home with my boyfriend and then going out for lunch after. It’s a relaxed approach that makes the results much more erotic.
How much input do you have in the editing/filming of the scenes? Is it mostly Mike Flirt or is it a collaborative effort between the two of you? (FYI, Mike Flirt is Camille’s partner.)
We’re always quite collaborative. I tend to edit the photos while he edits the videos, but we certainly talk through things and bounce ideas off each other. We like to do things together.
I hope you liked the questions. Sex.com is fairly new with the blog (only since mid-2012) but I think it’s coming along nicely, and I’m very honoured to be their second ever interview!
How did you spend your day so far, and what are your plans? I hope you have been taking a little time for yourself and/or your lover if you have one. Single or in a relationship, it’s a time to indulge a bit and to remember that love is out there. Of course, there’s no way that would not include a blowjob for me… It’s the gift that is always on his list, as you can see in today’s update: A Blowjob is Sweeter Than Chocolate.
Mike got me probably the second best gift… A box of delicious Godiva chocolates. But what’s number one? And orgasm in my mouth, of course. So, I guess in a way we gave each other that too! I always have a real anticipation, almost need for his cum. It’s sweet and actually pairs very nicely with a dark chocolate truffle… He was thinking ahead this year!
Whether you watch this by yourself or with your partner, I hope it’ll inspire some very good feelings of your own. The trailer is sweet, but the full video is even sweeter. If you don’t know what to do with yourself after your orgasm has subsided, maybe you can take a hint from some of these lovely feline friends, but maybe not all of them:
Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone! I hope you all feel the love I’m sending out your way.