Using condoms for a blowjob is a pretty contentious issue, and I wanted to come to you all with an open-ended discussion about whether you feel that it’s a necessity. Of course, I don’t use condoms when I give a blowjob for a variety of reasons, but I also realize that not everyone is in the type of relationship as I am.
While I don’t want to delve too deep into the nitty gritty (this is a place of sexiness and porn most of the time, after all) but I did want to link to an article on Jezebel about the link between unprotected oral sex and the rise of certain STIs. I’m definitely an advocate of safer sex, but oral sex has traditionally been presented as a “low risk” activity… It’s hard to know what to think.
The best thing you can do is get tested frequently and ensure that your partners are all tested as well, but that’s sometimes easier said than done, especially if you’re having casual sex. It’s not like people carry their latest test results around with them. So I did want to talk a bit about making blowjobs with a condom a little bit sexier.
Not many people enjoy the flavour of latex, so there are lots of flavoured condoms out there. It doesn’t taste exactly like strawberry or chocolate or whatever flavour you opt for, but at least it’s something. There are also lots of flavoured lubes out there, so you can pour some on and enjoy even with a regular condom.
For the recipient, a lot of people experience reduced sensation with condoms, so you can look for thinner condoms, like the Kimono Microthin. A lot of people suggest adding some lube to the inside of the condom to give more of a slippery wet feeling added to the pressure. Also, depending on your level of sensitivity, you can look into condoms with a larger tip, reservoir or a looser top and play around with having a little more room and less tightness on your cockhead and frenulum.
It’s hard to ask for your partner to use a condom, especially since there aren’t a lot of examples of that in mainstream culture or porn… But I don’t feel pressure to take that role, as we’re showing oral sex in the context of a long-term couple… Maybe a campaign to present it as an option, particularly when you don’t know someone as well or haven’t been tested lately?
I don’t know… What do you think? Have you ever given/received a blowjob with a condom? How did it feel? If you haven’t, would you? And how would you go about talking about something like that? I know this isn’t the most official version of a guide to owning and operating your penis, but I feel that thinking about issues that aren’t quite so cut and dry is a great way to get talking and formulating opinions… Hopefully we can whip up a good talk and expand our views!