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Steps to Sex-Positivity

Camille Crimson having sex before giving a beautiful blowjob

How can you be positively sex-positive?  There are lots of ways to express it, but Rachel Rabbit White of (among other things) The Frisky has a list of ways to be sure that you’re doing your best to encourage everyone in your life (including yourself) to enjoy sex in whatever ways they want.  There are 8, but I wanted to share a few of my favourites:

1. “Having sex is healthy, but so is not having sex.” I try to emphasize this over and over again.  There are so many ways to be sensual with yourself…  Watching porn and taking your time with it can be a really amazing way of exploring that.  I don’t ever want to use language that makes it seem like you need a significant other to have a good time.  But also, you don’t even need to be sexual at all if you don’t want to be.  Granted, you’re not likely going to be finding my sites if you don’t at least like a little quality solo time, but there is no requirement to do so in life.  Sexuality should be live and let live.  No one should feel weird for doing what feels right, as long as everyone is consenting!

3. “Slut-shaming also means shaming people who are more “out of the box” with their sexuality than you.” This should go without saying…  I try not to speak ill about the lengths that anyone goes to when it comes to sharing or exploring their sexuality.  That may seem obvious, since I make porn, but I try not to be negative about the people who make more mainstream porn, even though it’s not my personal route.  I may not always agree with the business of big, mainstream porn, but I would never judge the personal choice to appear in it.  The more we try to step back from big, overarching snap judgments, the more likely we are to open our minds and understand (or at least accept) what we were initially wary of.

8. “Intimacy is complex.” This is certainly one that I need to check in with myself about.  I try to lead by example and talk about communication and show how that has positively impacted my life with Mike, but I also don’t want to assume that it’s this easy for everyone.  You, as well as any partners you might have or have had, have different experiences than mine.  I’m lucky that so many of you share your lives with me and I get to give my two cents from time to time. All I can do is try to be understanding and see where you’re coming from when your experiences of intimacy are different than mine.

What are some steps or thoughts that have helped you to be more open and non-judgmental about sex and sexuality?

Redhead Pros and Cons

Redhead Camille Crimson of The Art of Blowjob on a sunny day

I love being a redhead.  Sure, some people have gingerphobia, but just as many people love redheads…  In my experience, many more!  We’re seen as rare and precious, and I can’t say no to feeling like that!  There’s a list of negatives about being a redhead over on Thought Catalog, which I don’t think is especially true to life.  Most of them are about being pale, really…  And it may be too bad that we burn easily, but that’s what sunscreen is for, right?  I think of it as a way to be proactive about keeping my skin healthy and beautiful!

She also mentions how hard it is to wear certain colours as a redhead, but I think that’s just flat out wrong!  I can look pretty in anything I put my mind to.  This article has a whole bunch of great ideas for how to pull off lots of different colours, including the “dreaded” red on red.  I love wearing red…  Who cares if a few people think it clashes with my hair!  I think it looks elegant.

What do you think?  Would you like to be a redhead, or do you worry about burning to a crisp or pulling off cherry red ensembles?

Interviews with Lilyanne Bloom

Hot sexy babe Lilyanne Bloom of sensual sex site Pornographic Love

Pornographic Love has been getting a lot of attention lately, and rightfully so!  Lilyanne has been featured in another two interviews recently and I thought I’d feature a few tidbits from them since she’s such a sweetheart and I want you all to see it for yourselves.

 

The first interview was with Blogoporno, creators of Camille Crimson Tuesdays.  Her interview was great and focused a lot on the site, but also on her.  Here are a few questions and answers:

 

BoP: What made you decide to go into adult?

LB: I always had a very strong exhibitionist side and I am a very sexual and sensual person. I had some experience in porn before Pornographiclove.com, but nothing compared with what I am doing with the site right now. When I met Max, we had such a great personal and sexual connection together and we are very open minded so that it came all by itself. What we are doing is not just porn… it’s some porn with love.

BoP: How does it feel to be associated with Camille Crimson?

LB: It feels so nice to be associate with Camille! For me, she is a pioneer in making different porn. She is so talented, gorgeous and smart, I feel honored. Honestly, when I discovered her website, The Art Of Blowjob, about 3 years ago, I never thought that I would meet her one day… She and Mike have welcomed us in their world and they helped us so much with our site, they are truly good people and we are very happy to see our friendship growing.

BoP: I know you actually have a background in horticulture. What’s your favorite plant and why?

LB: I don’t have an absolute favorite plant, I love so many of them and so many different reasons. In terms of flowers flowers, I can say that I really love lilacs and jhealasmine, even if it’s very fragile and hard to keep in Montreal. I also really love all sorts of herbs like basil, mint, thyme, anything that gives freshness and flavors to food. I am very fascinated by all the edible plants and vegetables.

 

What great answers (and questions, too) right?  Don’t forget to read the rest of the interview!  But, speaking of interviews, she did another one with Wilson Garret, which delved into her experiences with and thoughts on porn:

 

Will: What do you believe about sex and sexuality? How do you see porn informing how people think about sex and sexuality?
Lilyanne: I think that a great sexuality must be passionate, healthy and full of love. Sex is not just genital, it is also in the head and in the heart. It is important for me to trust and connect with the person I am having sex with in order to have a real orgasm. Just fucking for the sake of fucking will never be as satisfying as making love. I think in most of the porn now, that part is missing.
Will: Personally, I like interracial, Black, and lesbian porn. What sorts of porn do your find sexually arousing?
Lilyanne:  I will say that I don’t watch too much porn myself… between filming and editing our own videos, I don’t have much time to watch other people have sex. But when it happens, I like amateur porn, not for the visual quality, but for the intimacy and the realness.
Will: What are your thoughts on social media?  Is it a luxury or a necessity?
Lilyanne:  It is fun for me to do it. And I think it is a necessity to be directly connected with people and to know what they think. It’s the best way to start a dialogue about what a joy sex and porn can be and share that message.
There’s lots more where that came from over at Wilson Garret’s site, so find out more about Lilyanne there.  So, what do you think?  Did this give you a bit more insight into our beautiful brunette?

Blowjob Maintenance for Men

Camille Crimson gives a gorgeous sensual blowjob

 

Thanks to a suggestion from the lovely Cal, I’ve decided to post a little series of hints/tips for how to make yourself the ideal blowjob candidate, so to speak.  This isn’t exhaustive, but maybe if you have other questions/topics, I’ll make another post like this.  For today, I’m going to focus on the senses:  taste, smell, sight, touch and…  sound.

 

In terms of taste, I’ll be talking about cum flavour and texture.  If you don’t particularly care about swallowing or finishing in their mouth, then you can do whatever you want, but there are a few simple rules for having more palatable cum and they are basically the same rules as the “live well” rules:  drink lots of water, don’t smoke and eat a healthy, balanced diet with less focus on dairy/fatty meats and more focus on fruits and vegetables.

 

While I don’t know with any absolute certainty, people say that certain sweet fruits (especially pineapple) are good for adding a certain sweetness to your cum.  I do know that, for a lot of people, asparagus doesn’t do wonders for their urine and therefore there might be a little asparagus aftertaste in the cum too.  It’s probably for the best if you avoid the grilled asparagus if you want a blowjob.  It doesn’t mean that you have to deprive yourself of all good things and chow down pineapple until your mouth is one big canker sore, but it’s worth keeping these things in mind.

 

By smell, I mean smell and taste, but that doesn’t make for quite as clear topic delineation, so here we are.  I’m going to specifically talk about hygiene.  Whether you’re circumcised or uncircumcised, an unwashed penis can create some less than tantalizing aromas.  Likewise, unwashed testicles (especially on a hot day or after a workout) aren’t a huge turn on.  I am a big advocate of making sure I’m nice and squeaky clean, and I think it’s only fair that you wash up if you want to get oral sex, whether you’re male or female.

 

Some people have more problems than others with controlling odours, so more day to day maintenance may be necessary for some over others.  Also, make sure to do a thorough washing with a little delicate soap.  If you’ve got a foreskin, pull it back and really make sure to get in there.  Wash your balls, the head, the shaft, behind the balls…  Just make sure to leave no stone unturned, so to speak.  Trust me, when you’re feeling nice and fresh, everything will feel better and you will get a much more sensual and thorough blowjob.

 

Sight is just about getting you guys all to calm down.  Don’t worry about dropping your pants for the first time.  Try to shed your hangups about circumcision, length/width, ball size, curvature…  We really don’t care.  You don’t need to say something to “excuse” the way you look.  If we’re this close to your penis, we probably want to suck it.  So no self-deprecating remarks.  Penises come in all shapes and sizes, and while people may have certain preferences, that doesn’t mean that they will be biased against others.

 

Touch…  This is going to focus on your pubic hair grooming.  This is where opinions will vary.  There are always people out there who really freak out about pubic hair and can’t deal with it at all.  If you find yourself with one of those people and you’re not a shaver/waxer, either (politely) argue why you’d rather keep your pubic hair (comfort, time, wariness of hair removal products…) or give it a try.  If you hate it, you don’t have to do it again, but giving it a go is worth it in terms of the blowjob that you’ll get for being amenable.

 

As far as most people are concerned, the only thing that matters is length.  I recommend trimming if you have wild, unruly pubic hair.  If it’s long enough to tickle nostrils, get stuck in teeth easily or to choke on, get a little pair of grooming scissors or a bikini trimmer and get trimming.  It doesn’t have to be stubble short, just not extremely long.  Of course, you can go naturally, it’s just not going to always be the easiest way to get a blowjob from a logistical standpoint.  No one likes to stop in the middle while someone fishes out a pubic hair.

 

In terms of sound…  I’ve got nothing.  I guess, don’t try to stick your penis in anyone’s ear.  It doesn’t sound like the ocean.

Teacher Loses Job Over Porn

Just as I was saying yesterday about how sexual women aren’t respected as they should be in many situations, news hit today that a teacher in St. Louis had to leave her job after one of her students saw a video she did nearly 20 years ago online.  She had already been fired from one job because it came out that she was a former porn performer.  In an article from Jezebel, they said:

 

Myers’s porn past had also gotten her fired from her job at a Kentucky school back in 2006 — in both cases, the Daily News said her porn career didn’t show up in a background check because it wasn’t illegal. There’s also no reason it should have affected her teaching ability. It’s not like she was showing porn to her students — and in fact, she never would’ve been outed at her St. Louis job if the teenage whistleblower hadn’t been looking at porn in the first place. Memo to Parkway North and high schools nationwide: your students can learn way more about porn from thirty seconds on the Internet than they can from a teacher who was in Major Sluts fifteen years ago and by all accounts never talks about it in the classroom. And the American education system has way bigger problems than whether some lady used to have sex on camera. Even if it was entirely Myers’s own decision to leave Parkway, she likely came to it in light of the stigma she faced in Kentucky. At that time, she said, “Anybody who has been in my classroom could tell you how much I love teaching and how much I love these students, and that should be what matters more than anything in my past.” If only everyone she worked with were so reasonable.

 

I completely echo all those ideas.  Besides, with the amazingly high rates of amateur porn, the cult of the Suicide Girl and of 18-19 year olds posting revealing pictures on Tumblr, having naked pictures/sexual videos of yourself online won’t be able to be grounds for termination because practically everyone will have done it.  Besides, as the quote above states, it’s not illegal.  Showing off something natural and empowering is never a bad thing.  Just because you have a more “straight-laced” career doesn’t mean you can’t have an active and fulfilling sex life, currently or in the past.

 

I just feel horrible for this woman and I hope that the day will come where any kind of healthy, legal sexuality won’t be seen as a personal fault or liability.

Sex is Good for You!


Redhead Camille Crimson gives a sensual blowjob

 

We all know sex is good for us, but do we really know why?  I have a website that I love to check out called Mark’s Daily Apple, which is all about different ways to stay healthy and fit for life.  I’m a huge proponent for an active and involved sex life, primarily for the good it does for relationships, self-esteem and relaxation, but the health aspects are very interesting.  Recently, Mark’s Daily Apple posted a blog about ways that sex helps us stay healthy.  Here are a few of my favourites:

 

Upgrade Your Immune Function

 

An often cited study from Wilkes University suggests regular sex might offer a surge of immune potency. Among the 112 surveyed students, those who had sex 1-2 times a week showed a rousing 30 percent boost in salivary immunoglobulin. Those who had sex less frequently than once a week had a slight IgA edge over total abstainers. (In an interesting wrinkle, the “three or more times a week” crowd showed slightly lower IgA levels. To their possible chagrin, the researchers didn’t ask participants about the number of partners or other potential “relationship” factors that might have influenced the findings. Hmmm…lack ofsleep?) Although it’s a study to take with a grain of salt, the basic premise is probably sound. As welcome as it is, the usual exchange of fluids (or the body’s anticipated exchange) represents contact with a foreign substance that likely contains some kind of microbial profile.

 

Reduce Your Risk of Prostate Cancer

 

Research has linked frequent ejaculations (yes, the solo gig counts here) with a slightly lower risk for prostate cancer in later life. The golden frequency in this study? Twenty-one times per month. It’s a tall order, but I know you can do it.

One possible explanation for the decrease is the “flushing” theory. In its efforts to concentrate minerals and other necessary substances from the blood to make semen, the prostate can end up collecting a concentration of toxins as well. Releasing the semen – with said toxins – flushes the system of said impurities. (Gives a new meaning to cleaning out the pipes.)

 

Look Better

 

Now we’re getting to the good stuff. (Kidding.) Yes, there’s the ever flattering afterglow. It’s a shame they can’t bottle that. There’s so much more to gain, however, or maybe lose. How about calories for instance? Estimates vary but average around 85-100 calories per half an hour. Of course, real life expenditures diverge depending on how zesty an enterprise you enjoy. In terms of calories burned, you’re looking at low to moderate level activity, but your heart rate can easily climb to high intensity levels. It’s probably the most enjoyable cardio you’ll pursue any day of the week.

Then there’s the workout itself – a toning and stretching and strengthening that includes muscles you didn’t even know you had – ala that next morning ache. (Don’t forget about those less obvious – and all important – pelvic floor muscles, which support everything from orgasm intensity to urinary continence.) On the chemical front, intercourse offers a boost in testosterone for stronger bones and muscles. Finally, how about the appeal of a totally relaxed face and body – and the inevitable smile?

 

These all sound like pretty good reasons to me.  Check out the rest of the article and let me know what your top reason is for having sex for health.