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Teasing Is What’s Missing In Our Lives!

We live in an instant-gratification era! Quick fixes of adrenaline, cheap thrills, everything is fast and leaves you hungry for more. When did the fast french kiss became less erotic than a lingering kisses on the cheek in the old Hollywood Movies? Where has gone the art of teasing?

Okay, I know things have changed, women work nowadays! They don’t have hours to do get ready to go do the groceries. But still, as a woman I miss that time that I never knew, where people were all dressed up for no reason.

Tease…

I think that Zara Barrie agrees with me, on some points. Read her out:

The t-e-a-s-e. Oh, being in the wonderful throes of the painfully awesome sexual tease is such a rare occurrence these days. Doesn’t it get you hot to just think about it? The “let’s take it oh-so slowly, indulgently draw it out until you’re pulling the hair out of your head, biting your lower lip until it HURTS, begging, swearing, cursing and trembling because you want it so bad” tease.

Isn’t it the palpable heat of pent-up desire that finds us lost in the fantasy of lust and sexual wonder?

If we want to get really down and dirty, let’s dare to get real: Isn’t sex more of a psychological game than a physical game?

Isn’t it all about desiring something so badly but not being able to get it right away?

Isn’t it the mental back and forth, the unattainability that leaves us hopelessly daydreaming about twisted sheets and hot bodies when we’re supposed to be sitting at our desks, working between the hours of nine and five?

As internet rendered us sexually unsatisfied, with it’s too explicit menu of fast satisfactions?

Sexual and Mental Stimulation!

As you know sex never only starts by sex! You need to talk a little before you get down to it. It’s words that give you the best stimuli.  To debate, to reveal your secrets, a deep conversation- that’s what creates the spark. Most of us need to connect with a person to have mind blowing sex!

Build up the tension to create a better release! 

I’m not talking about abstinence, I’m talking about teasing. Push the limits as long as you can, create a huge sexual tension between the both of you. Make it become an obsession. When the release finally comes, you’ll see yourself much more satisfied :) Anywhere there is tease, there is tension. And when there is tension, there is release.

Seduction and Satisfaction!

We want to be seduced and tortured a little, we are all humans after all. We can’t be satisfied by something that is too easily given to us. As Zara said: “It’s akin to slowly unwrapping a present. Taking your time to untangle the satin ribbons and delicately unwrap the shiny paper — makes getting your hands on the glorious gift so much better.”

Sex is the ultimate human interaction, it bring us closer and makes us create new life. All humans should be sexually satisfied!!!

Take a look, TheArtofBlowjob wants to show you the art of tease!

 

Inspired by Zara Barrie from Elite Daily.

Slow, Sweet and With Lots of Saliva

Slow and sensual blowjob with lots of saliva

Imagine a warm, wet mouth around your cock, slowly moving upwards and then the coolness of air gently caressing your exposed cock as she pulls away, connected to you by only a string of saliva. Envision the moments suspended in time where her saliva slowly dribbles out her lips and down onto your cock, trickling down your cock at a snail’s pace, greeting every inch of skin in due time and settling at your balls. As she grabs your cock to stroke it, you feel everything heat up, your shaft nice and wet, slipping and sliding in and out of her palm from base to tip. Now imagine that beautiful face, those kind eyes and those sweetly seductive lips. Piper is amazing at what she does, and you can take this little fantasy to the next level by watching her in action on Slow Motion Blowjob.

Faking and Fantasy

Sexy redhead give a blowjob in glasses

I love learning a few sexy new facts, and I like them even better when a few of them are entirely focused on what goes on in the mind.  After all, as much as the physical is very, very fun, a tremendous amount of it is informed by what goes on in your brain.  So, two aspects really intrigued me about Jezebel’s recent little roundup on sexual findings.

The first thing that really pinged to me is exactly how many men fake orgasms…  Apparently it’s up to 67% when it comes to divorced men.  Obviously there’s a lot of talk about women faking and the reasons around that, but there’s also a lot of expectation put on men to be able to have orgasms…  It’s linked to virility, but it’s also seen as manly to want lots of sex and to be able to come on demand, but not too soon or too slowly.  Sometimes it’s just not going to happen.  So, I have to ask…  Have any of you (divorced or otherwise!) ever faked an orgasm?  What was your reasoning, or what keeps you from doing it?

The other thing that sounded incredibly cool here is that women (though maybe men too) are able to get aroused, sometimes to the brink of orgasm, just by imagining being stimulated.  The brain is a sex organ, but it may actually be able to arouse us right through various stages of desire and fulfillment.  Has anything like this ever happened to you?  I know that I can imagine my nipples being played with and I can experience some pretty intense sensations…  And I certainly salivate before I’m ever around a penis if I’m thinking about a really visceral blowjob experience…  It’s pretty phenomenal.  How about you?

What this really means is that we can and should be thinking more…  Fantasizing, letting our minds wander and experiencing that as part of our sexual expression both alone and with a partner.  It can make for more arousal, more orgasms…  Even though the latter is definitely not the be all and end all.  It’s just about enjoying yourself, whatever form that takes.

Glory Hole

Sweet sucking at a glory hole

Okay, so, first off just to be clear: this is not taken at a real glory hole…  We utilized a partition in our room to make it feel like his penis was the only focus, like at a glory hole.  I knew very well that it was Mike on the receiving side.  😉  The whole concept of a disembodied penis to pleasure can be very sexy when you feel safe, which is exactly what we did in this video.

A lot of it was about getting into the mindset that I would honestly know Mike’s penis anywhere.  If there were a lineup of a million, I’d spot his right away.  That’s the kind of familiarity that comes from years upon years together, but also from being really present when I give him blowjobs.  It’s wonderful to be able to escape into this kind of fantasy because it’s so grounded in a beautiful mutual understanding.  We just get each other, sexually of course in this case, but also in every other way.  Even with our playful attempts at roleplaying here to explore different dynamics, it’s always set on the foundation of love.

I wish for all of you all this kind of experience.  Hearing comments of the wonderful ways people can explore and play together while still staying respectful, connected and loving is such a great aspect of this blog, so I hope that this video echoes that beautiful sentiment.  Let me know what you think!  The still and description will give you an idea, and then the full video will certainly show you exactly what I mean.

Porn for Women

XKCD Comic on porn for women

 

The above comic is from XKCD, and I couldn’t agree more.

 

Recently there has been a whole lot of talk about porn for women.  But what does that actually mean?  People imagine things about the way the porn is shot, the idea of having a storyline, softer imagery, more romance…  There’s nothing wrong with that kind of porn, except that it’s not something for ALL women, and there are a lot of men who like that kind of porn.  So, that’s not really porn for WOMEN, is it?

 

A lot of people include the stipulation that porn for women has to show lots of woman-centric pleasure.  Does that mean that The Art of Blowjob or Slow Motion Blowjob could never be porn for women because it focuses (on the surface, anyways) on man-oriented pleasure?  I certainly don’t think so.

 

Women like all kinds of different things.  Some like the soft, romantic kind of porn that mainstream porn companies expect them to, but a lot also like much harder stuff or specific niches that may not seem woman-friendly at all.  To assume that all women like one thing is just as damaging as assuming that all men like one thing, which is what has created the need for “porn for women” (if there is such a need) in the first place!  If we hadn’t created a porn industry that thinks that all men only want hardcore porn without any nuance, emotion or artistry, we wouldn’t have to ascribe those qualities to women by default.

 

So, what’s the alternative?  I think there’s lots of value in “romance porn” which is a legitimate genre that can appeal to both men and women.  Same with glam, beautiful porn, story-driven porn, softcore porn…  All of those things are valid without attaching them solely to women.  It makes it seem like porn with training wheels for us delicate women.  Treating your growing audience that way is not the best way to endear them to porn, especially if many of them gravitate towards other kinds of porn.

 

Instead, I think that porn performers, directors, companies and blogs should reach out to women and making it clear that women are part of the audience and the conversation.  Using respectful language about women (or at least explaining that it’s fantasy when they don’t) and not making assumptions that everyone watching porn is a guy will be a great step towards making women feel included in porn viewership.  I’m sure there are lots of other things to do, but I have this conversation a lot with a lot of people and it seems like making women feel included from the ground up is important to get to actually understanding what, if anything, unifies women in the way they approach porn.

 

What do you think?  Do we need “porn for women” or is that just all porn?

Why Do You Watch Porn?

Camille Crimson having an orgasm

 

A while back, I found this really great piece about why women watch porn on Orgasm.  What struck me is the fact that, a few things aside, I wouldn’t say there’s much difference between why women and men watch porn.  We’re all curious, we all want to be aroused and entertained and we’d like to learn a thing or two if possible.

 

One difference I saw was the idea of a woman finding her partner’s stash and coming to porn that way.  Has this ever happened to you, either as the person finding the porn or the person whose porn is found?  Is this an embarrassing idea, or would you use this as a golden opportunity to find out what makes each other tick and how to explore it further?

 

I would actually say (especially based on some of the feedback I’ve had here over the years) that a lot of guys watch porn for the penis too, whether it’s to compare, to put themselves in his position or simply for a very natural arousal.  I think that’s incredibly sexy.

 

So, what do you think?  Are there more differences or similarities when it comes to why women and men watch porn?  And really, why do you watch porn?  Anything that didn’t make the list?