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Harriet Sugarcookie on What To Do If You Get Caught Masturbating!

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Have you ever been caught masturbating? If it hasn’t happened to you yet, it’s maybe because you are not masturbating enough 😛 Here’s what Harriet Sugarcookie tells you to do if ever your girlfriend walks in on your masturbating!

The moment someone walks in on you, your whole body tenses up. You go into panic mode. You practically die of embarrassment, and in that moment your head isn’t thinking clearly. It’s in this state of panic that you might do or say something that makes the situation worse. 

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Helping Happy Relationships with Beautiful Porn

Naked while giving a sensual blowjob

I’m in Miami, so this is just a quickie Q+A response, but one near and dear to my heart for a lot of reasons:

Do you get much feedback about your impact on relationships? I doubt that everyone is comfortable with the knowledge that their spouse or lover is getting off thanks to the work that you and Mike do.

We actually get a ton of really wonderful feedback from happy couples who watch our porn.  Whether it’s young couples finding out what makes them tick together or older empty nesters discovering what the internet has to offer to reignite their passion, we get a ton of solid response from people who have used our porn to explore and connect together.  It’s one of the nicest feelings in the world to know that we’re a little part of that.

There’s also a lot of response from people who are nervous to share what we do with their partner, so I try to help encourage people to be open without making it seem like what we do is an ideal for their relationship or that porn is necessary to keep them interested…  Just to honestly share the fact that they find it interesting and sexy to see what it might be able to stoke in their relationship by watching it together.  It’s amazing how well that often seems to work.  Sometimes the significant other will even contact later to say that they’re happy they found out about our kind of porn.

There was even a response once from someone who was initially kind of jealous about her boyfriend’s fascination with our site, but I was able to diffuse the situation and try to contextualize to both of them that porn can be a good thing to enjoy together, but it shouldn’t be something that comes before each other.

How about you?  Do any of you have stories of introducing or enjoying porn as a couple?

Masturbation Bar

A Japanese female masturbation bar

Photo Via GlobalPost.com

 

To be clear, this isn’t a bar where you can actually masturbate, but Japan has opened up a bar devoted to supporting and discussing female masturbation.  It’s called Love Joule and it looks like they have some premium sex toys along with a selection of premium liquors.  Sounds good to me!

 

What they want is to stimulate (ahem!) conversation about pleasure.  The place is a safe space to gossip with your friends over a couple of drinks.  Men can come if accompanied by a female partner, but it’s definitely designed as a spot where the focus is on female sexuality, which I assume includes not creeping on women who are trying to enjoy themselves.

 

I think having a place like this in Montreal would be amazing.  I think we should have more places where women feel comfortable discussing their sexuality, but I think it’d be great to have a place like that for guys too.  Fleshlights and Tenga Eggs everywhere, really good lubes, prostate toys as far as the eye can see.  Maybe we’d finally be able to get past machismo and onto a more holistic view of male sexuality too.  Oh, and ideally eventually a place where everyone can just get together and celebrate pleasure while respecting each other too…

 

Would you go to a place like this?  Do you think something like this would fly outside of Japan?

Interview with TokiiTales

Sensual blowjob on the kitchen floor

 

I was lucky enough to get interviewed by TokiiTales recently, and the result is a wonderful piece that has gone up today on their blog.  It is the complimenting cultural site to Tokii, a relationship site/app with different games and challenges to keep couples communicating about  a variety of issues.  Of course, this is right up my alley.  Communication is key.  I’m glad I got to communicate my message there, and I’ll share a couple of questions here:

 

Why do men love blowjobs so much?

They feel amazing, of course.  It’s a sex act with a tremendous amount of versatility of sensation, so; you can tailor it to the kind of feelings he enjoys.

Who do you videos target- men, women, or couples, and why?

We don’t try to target it too much.  I just want to share what we do with the world and offer a beautiful take on porn for whoever wants it.  We’re popular across the board and we don’t try to exclude anyone.

What type of reactions do you get from people when you tell them what you do?

Mostly they’re curious.  It’s feminist, it’s couple-oriented, and it’s made to show love and respect in sexuality. People, generally speaking, understand, unless they’re incredibly closed-minded to begin with. Then it’s hard to ever really change their opinions.

 

Of course, there’s more where that came from, so read the rest of the interview for the whole thing!  Since this is related to Tokii, I was wondering, would you ever use a site to create ways to communicate, or would you rather do it organically?  Or not at all?  I’d love to know, as an avid fan of communication!

My Interview with Whack Magazine

Sexy redhead Camille Crimson from The Art of Blowjob

Merely a few days after my first column went live on Whack Magazine, my interview has gone live too.  I was lucky enough to get a deluge of questions from the lovely Miss Lagsalot and had the opportunity to give them a lot of thought.  I always love getting interviewed, but that joy is understandably multiplied when the questions are as apt and interesting as hers are.  Here are a few of my favourites:

W! You maintain a healthy distance from the big hub of the industry and the big studios — why?

CC Basically, I’m not a “pornstar” or anything like that.  I shoot with my boyfriend, we do all the shooting and production ourselves and it’s not so much about putting out a product as it’s about doing something we both love.  There’s nothing “industry” about what we do really.

W! I’m really excited about the Art of Blowjob. I’ve watched enough old school porn and enough modern porn to see that the idea of what makes a blowjob sexy has changed drastically since the seventies. Whereas they were once beautiful expressions of sensuality, they now seem to be considered good only if the woman is choked and gagging and drooling uncontrollably on the dick. I’m sure this feels good for the man, but it’s not always fun to watch. How did you decide to take BJs in the more sexy, sensual direction?

CC It’s just what’s natural to me.  It doesn’t feel good for me to have my hair pulled out of my scalp, tears and mucus running down my face and being pushed to the point of nearly vomiting.  That’s not really giving a blowjob…  That’s taking a merciless throat ravaging.  Giving a blowjob requires skill, different sensations, teasing, seduction, varying speeds, use of lips, tongue, throat, cheeks, palms and fingertips, focus on all the parts of the penis, the balls and the surrounding erogenous zones.  It’s wonderful sensual pampering, not just a means to an end.

W! Do you hope to make more men like him by educating their partners about blowjobs? Or are you just getting people off?

CC I really hope so.  I answer my e-mails/comments on blogs/places where I post and I talk to a lot of guys who really want blowjobs.  I try to talk about how they need to appreciate their partner, make them feel special, make sure that everyone’s satisfied and communicate honestly about what they both want.  And then I mention that they should watch some of my videos to get some tips.  If I could make sure that every couple had great sex where everyone felt respected and satisfied, that would be my life’s work right there.

W! The love and chemistry between you and your man really shows in your videos. Do you think chemistry is the most important factor in making good porn?

CC Yes I do.  That’s why I think a lot of mainstream porn doesn’t work.  I’m not saying that the performers have to be madly in love (although that’s nice), but I think they should at least know/like each other and be genuinely attracted to each other.  I’ve read that directors like Tristan Taormino will ask performers who they have crushes on and match them up for shoots.  That’s a really good way to ensure that a scene won’t just be people going through the motions.

She’s very thorough and gave me a lot of opportunity to talk about what I do beyond just how to give a great blowjob.  There are a ton more questions in the full interview, so you should really check it all out.  In fact, as I’ve said before, peruse Whack Magazine in its entirety if you haven’t already gotten the chance.  There are a lot more thoughtful and thorough interviews, reviews and articles.  My thanks to them for the amazing interview and the wonderful opportunity to write more in the future!