Wow, I really think that people should talk to pornstars and really ask them questions more often… Like Fleshbot does. They’re smart, funny and thoughtful and they know a whole lot more than most of the people spouting advice about sex… What lovely women (and James Deen) with intelligent, important things to say about porn and sex… And the actual difference between the two. I didn’t know a ton about many of these performers before, but getting them to speak honestly about sex is a surefire way to endear them and help people understand them better.
Stoya is just awesome. She preaches openness, trying things, exploring… She knows that there are no definite sex tips, just a ton of value in personal and interpersonal exploration!
Chanel Preston and Jelena Jensen bring up the fact that there is no one right move, even in blowjobs. It doesn’t matter whether it’s on a man or a woman… Techniques are nice, but everyone likes something different. James Deen agrees in his usual comical way.
Angela Sommers, Brandi Love and Dana DeArmond both talk about loving yourself first. Make yourself feel sexy, take the time to treat yourself with respect, know and accept your body… You have to love yourself before you can love somebody else, and that includes sexually. We should relax and embrace what we have.
Taylor Stevens and Lexi Lowe preach the ability to communicate, both explicitly and implicitly. Whether it’s about making your desires known or watching body language and subtle moments, it just makes sex better.
Kayden Kross and Brooklyn Lee speak on my favourite subject: blowjobs. Don’t do it like you see it in porn! It’s not a shark attack! You don’t have to always deep throat and go incredibly hard and force it as hard as you can. There’s value in sensuality and focusing on lots of different feelings! (I couldn’t agree more!)
Kayden also brings up the most valuable thing of all… Don’t try this at home. They do things that look interesting, not necessarily ones that feel good. So really, don’t go for the big showy moves unless you know that’s what your partner wants.
Lily Labeau is incredibly evocative, talking about all the ways to tease and explore, worship your body and your partner’s body… Especially when getting someone turned out and wet enough is what you’re after.
And even that darling Stormy Daniels with a very important tidbit at the end, which made me laugh out loud.
Unfortunately, I couldn’t get the video up here, but you should check it out and let me know what you think about all of this advice!