Camille Crimson

I finally read the article Teaching Good Sex from the New York Times.  It’s almost a month old, but I just caught wind of it.  It’s amazing, a very long read, and it covers a lot of really important ground.  Essentially, it’s all about different ways to approach sexual education for young people, but I honestly think that it’s equally valid and applicable for people of all ages.

Above, I’ve included a video that was linked to in the article.  It’s about things we “learn” in porn and how they aren’t actually true, and I think that this is the case (at least initially) for pretty much any mainstream porn consumer.  Whether it’s fear about size, not knowing how to get/receive oral sex or how to get comfortable about sex in general, it’s all contextualized pretty poorly in most porn, and that’s where most people are getting their information.

I also wanted to share an excerpt from the article that is completely revolutionary and I hope that everyone who reads it will take it to heart:

Vernacchio has a way of getting at its positive potential without ignoring the fact that, however good sex may feel, it’s sometimes best left off the menu. “So let’s think about pizza,” Vernacchio said to his students after they’d deconstructed baseball. The class for that day was just about over. “Why do you have pizza?”

“You’re hungry,” a cross-country runner said.

“Because you want to,” Vernacchio affirmed. “It starts with desire, an internal sense — not an external ‘I got a game today, I have to do it.’ And wouldn’t it be great if our sexual activity started with a real sense of wanting, whether your desire is for intimacy, pleasure or orgasms. . . . And you can be hungry for pizza and still decide, No thanks, I’m dieting. It’s not the healthiest thing for me now.

“If you’re gonna have pizza with someone else, what do you have to do?” he continued. “You gotta talk about what you want. Even if you’re going to have the same pizza you always have, you say, ‘We getting the usual?’ Just a check in. And square, round, thick, thin, stuffed crust, pepperoni, stromboli, pineapple — none of those are wrong; variety in the pizza model doesn’t come with judgment,” Vernacchio hurried on. “So ideally when the pizza arrives, it smells good, looks good, it’s mouthwatering. Wouldn’t it be great if we had that kind of anticipation before sexual activity, if it stimulated all our senses, not just our genitals but this whole-body experience.” By this time, he was really moving fast; he’d had to cram his pizza metaphor into the last five minutes. “And what’s the goal of eating pizza? To be full, to be satisfied. That might be different for different people; it might be different for you on different occasions. Nobody’s like ‘You failed, you didn’t eat the whole pizza.’

“So again, what if our goal, quote, unquote, wasn’t necessarily to finish the bases?” The students were gathering their papers, preparing to go. “What if it just was, ‘Wow, I feel like I had enough. That was really good.’ ”

This is really the most interesting thing I think I’ve ever read when it comes to discussing sex and pleasure.  If we could just get rid of all our hang-ups and expectations and focus on how to have a delicious experience for ourselves and our partners, sex would always be awesome, piping hot and satisfying!

This week has had two updates, a portrait update called Nude with Little Blue Flowers and now a video called Sweet Blowjob on a Quiet Afternoon.  I love that I get to put up multiple updates every week, so it always makes me very happy to share them here.  They’re both from the same day, and they’re nude, which I certainly have come to quite enjoy.  The late light of day and the stillness of the season were the perfect backdrop, and I had my hair up with cute little blue flower pins, so the whole look fit perfectly for a sensual blowjob.

This video is great because it features Mike masturbating me subtly while I give him the blowjob.  It’s sweet, but also very intense, and I had an orgasm right around when he came.  I love when that happens.  There’s something very special about feeling that kind of synchronicity in sex.  It’s not necessary every time, but once in a while it can be absolutely electrifying.

This is an especially hot video, and the portraits are just sweet and cute with a lot of cheeky nudity.  I hope you’ll check out the trailer and then of course, see the full video, since that’s where all the orgasmic action transpires.

I’m a very lucky person, not only for having a great boyfriend, but for having two wonderful ladies in my life – Lilyanne and Sophie.  Of course, Max is wonderful too, but I’m specifically talking about their blog skills, so I’ll stick with just the two of them.  Since I have quite an audience on this blog, I just wanted to share a little bit of what these two are doing online, because I think they are sharing some pretty great things.

Lilyanne is all over the place, posting regularly on Twitter, Tumblr and her own blog.  Her Tumblr is largely dedicated to things from her site, but she also shares thoughts, answers questions and reblogs a lot of really beautiful content from Tumblr.  Her blog is a mix of a variety of things she’s interested in, focusing on art, music, film and, of course, sex, with a healthy dose of glimpses into her sex life, both on an off camera.  I can’t stress enough how important I feel the work she does is and how crucial it is to support people who honestly believe in the capacity for beautiful porn.  What Lilyanne and Max are doing with Pornographic Love is absolutely the future of the beautiful porn movement.

Sophie is back on her blog after a long hiatus, sharing a new phase of her journey as she segues back into singledom and embraces her new life as a sex blogger.  She’s now also writing a column for Peeperz and for GirlzPorn and is getting ready to start one on WhackMag.  It’s a mix of reviews, opinions and personal experience in the porn industry and I think it’s really worth supporting, because she has a very unique view on sexuality, which fits perfectly with our views as a company.  She’s also got a Tumblr now with some very sexy reblogs, including sharing an ample amount of content from The Art of Blowjob and Pornographic Love.

I appreciate so much how many of you engage with me on a daily basis and support what I do, so I hope you’ll do the same with these two great women.  :)

Hello everyone!

I’ve got my new advice column up on Peeperz and I wanted to share a bit of it with you:

I’m young guy who has been having sex for a couple of years now. I get nervous about certain things like hockey games, important exams and for some reason, sex. Ever since my childhood I’ve become nauseous whenever I get nervous, which does not help one bit when dealing with the situation I’m about to describe to you.

 My girlfriend turns me on, but sometimes when we go to have sex, my dick goes limp despite how badly I want to fuck her. Sometimes it’s right when I put the condom on, sometimes it’s when I’m about to enter her, or sometimes it just kind of happens in the middle, this is usually when I’m on top. Some positions are better than others, but it’s a stressful situation. I can masturbate, get head, and have a strong erection during foreplay, but I think my nerves are getting the best of me more often than I’d like to admit when it comes to sex.

 I try to relax, have her give me head to get it back up, etc. but it doesn’t always work, leaving me feeling inadequate. She says she does not mind, and I believe her, but it has done some serious damage to my sexual ego. I’ve acquired some viagra and have only used once or twice, and I got the desired results. I don’t want to start depending on that so early in my life, and I was wondering if you have any advice or have helped a guy get through something like this before? I know it’s my head getting to me, I’m a healthy, athletic kid and definitely don’t have ED. I just need to find a way to get my big brain to take the backseat and let the little brain do what it needs to do.

 

If you want to see the answer, you’ll have to check out the rest of the advice column!

I also did an advice Q and A on Porn is my Nirvana, so here are a few of the questions/answers:

I want to stick my tongue up my girlfriend’s ass, but I’m worried she’ll think I’m weird. What’s your policy on anal play?
Enjoying anal play isn’t weird, but ask first and don’t be pushy. You can frame your desire to explore anal play in a way that makes it clear that it’s something that would help your sexual fulfilment, but not something that needs to be all the time every day to the maximum. If she seems reluctant, just let her set the pace.

 

Do you ever talk dirty to your guy while you’re going down on him? I’ve been tempted, but never went through with it…
I tend to talk more sweetly than dirty, just because that’s the kind of person I am. Ultimately, any kind of sexy talk is about being genuine. It’s not sexy to play a part (unless you’re actually role-playing) and just pretend to be turned on. As cheesy as it is, speak from the heart (or, your genitals) and make sure not to talk with your mouth full. 

 

My boyfriend wants me to blow him somewhere public, like a club bathroom. I like the idea, but still feel apprehensive. Is this something you ever tried, and do you have any words of advice?
I’ve done a few “public” blowjobs in places I could get caught, which can be fun once in a while.  I’d say, start with a very secluded place (like in a bar/club with a few single-person washrooms) and just go in together and see what happens. Don’t pressure yourself to go through with it, just see if the moment sweeps you up. That kind of experience can be very thrilling, just be careful not to get caught.

 

To see more of my responses, read the rest of the advice Q and A!

Sophie has done it again.  She’s been the voice for our company on radio shows, and she’s always done a great job.  Her interview with Peeperz is certainly no exception.  She comes off as bright, witty and very clear about everything to do with our sites, our message and what we want to do to change the porn world.  I’m very proud of her, and you should be too.  Besides, you get to learn a bit more about her life.

The interview is about 30 minutes long and deals with everything to do with blowjobs, me, my relationship with Mike, our journey into making porn, the creation of Pornographic Love, what is required to make porn, her experience working in porn PR and a lot about sexuality in general.  The interviewer may have called me Camilla a few times, but it’s a great interview none the less and I think that you would really enjoy it.  Besides, her voice is just so cute!  The interviewer referred to this as “the most intelligent interview about our industry” he has ever done.  That’s pretty high praise.

Please be sure to read the intro, and you can hear it streaming on the page or you download it.

Violet and Rye of Uncommon Appetites are pretty awesome and sexy, so I figured I’d share a little post the put up recently on the subject of honesty with your significant others:

We wrote about this quite a bit in the early days of the blog, but now it’s just a thing we do, so it’s fun to think about the roots sometimes.

After being a few years into our relationship, we began to really explore each other in ways that neither of us had with other people. We dug into anal play, spanking, some light bondage, sex toys, mutual masturbation, sexting and all sorts of other fun shit. Then it came time to talk about porn. In the past, I had a partner that frowned upon it in a major way. And also frowned upon sex. So naturally, I was well versed in not only jerking off to porn, but in hiding it.

So I hid it for a while from V. Which is ridiculous, because she’s incredibly open-minded and about the coolest woman you’ll ever meet. She in no way fits any media stereotype about women, as many of our female readers also don’t. Because fuck that stereotypical bullshit! Women are horny too!

Anyway, we started talking about what kinds of porn we like. And then would share our ideas of good porn. It became a sort of challenge to hit on exactly what the other person would enjoy. And it just so happens that we like very similar things in our porn. Then one day, we stumbled upon a blog, written by a couple, that we really, really enjoyed. And we got to talking.

At first, it was just going to be stories and photos/videos we found that we enjoyed.

But then we took a few photos. And got a better camera. And talked about a video. And then another video.

We find, more and more that the world lacks the type of porn we enjoy. So we’ve begun setting out to make the kind of material we want to see. Photos are plentiful and delicious, but videos are really lacking. With Vimeo and new dSLR’s making artistic and stylish videos easier than ever, it seems silly that the porn world hasn’t gotten there yet. We’re hoping to help lead the charge, along with a select few people that have been there before us. A certain redhead has provided some inspiration, as most of our readers know by now.