Category Archives: Masturbation

Objectification in Porn?

Camille Crimson in a sexy blue bra

Today brings another Q+A question from one of our more verbose (and rightfully so — don’t change a thing!) commenters:

One of the oldest complaints against porn is that it teaches, encourages, or even forces the viewer to objectify the actors: people end up watching tits and asses, cocks and cunts, rather than individual human beings having sex with other individual human beings. And then that objectification turns into guilt, and insensitivity, and violence, et cetera, et cetera.

Obviously, your work fights against objectification in every way: you emphasize your individuality, and your strict relationship with Mike, and the importance of personhood and respect in porn. And this blog is one of your champion elements in letting us see and know you as an individual, not just a gorgeous body and a talented mouth.

And yet, at the end of the day, a lot of people are still jacking off to your sensual beauty. How do you feel about the idea of people becoming objects in porn– even beautiful porn– and is it a bad thing, a good thing, or simply a neutral fact of life?

I think it’s a neutral fact of life, and I think that when it comes to the actual act of watching porn and masturbating, we can’t help but often get that kind of tunnel vision where we’re really focused on the immediate sexuality in front of us. Even in passionate lovemaking, there’s a shift when you’re close to orgasm where it’s more about enjoying the stimulation than thinking about what a good person your partner is, even if that’s somewhere on your mind throughout most of the experience.

What I actually try to do is show that, while I am a mouth and breasts and nice hair and all that, I’m a person as well. The two don’t need to be mutually exclusive. There are times when I can be entertaining with thoughts on sexuality, Scotch recommendations and geeky moments and there are also times where I can be entertaining as a sexual woman, either as a whole or as parts to be focused upon for part of the pleasure.

So, I don’t want to be exclusively objectified. I don’t want people to think that I don’t have value outside of what I look like or what I do on camera, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with reverting to a very basic way of viewing me in the heat of the moment. We can’t be guilting people for their natural mindset when they’re doing something so primal.

How about you guys? What do you think when you’re watching porn? Do you end up focusing on parts of the person, or are you always somewhat aware of the sum of those parts?

Careful What You Put In There!

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Machine for making dildos

What does that machine say? Oh, the DildoMaker. That sounds like a perfectly normal household appliance, right? Nothing strange about that, what so ever… Well, maybe a little, but it’s an interesting idea. If you want a cheap dildo or you’re too lazy to leave the kitchen (it looks like it would go in the kitchen, maybe next to the mixer) to get yours from the bedside table, this handy tool will take that carrot, zucchini, sausage, stick, candle… Basically whatever phallic item you have lying around… and give it a head ribbed for your pleasure.

A carved wood dildo

They are actually fairly interesting pieces of at in a way, and I’m sure that, as long as they were sanitized and very well-sanded, they could potentially do the trick, but I’d advise using a condom over them anyways. ;)

The main word of caution is that you should not, under any circumstances, try to see if it would feel good on your penis. This is not a toy for men… It’s a giant pencil sharpener. This is not the type of mistake you can easily shrug off!

Thanks for Violet Blue for sharing this bizarre piece of equipment. Would you ever use a DildoMaker, or perhaps an equivalent machine that would tunnel holes through melons and, I don’t know… Soft loaves of bread? Or do you prefer to keep your foods and inanimate objects anatomically incorrect? :P

Awful Sex Advice for Men!

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Outperform her vibrator? Really, Men’s Health? That is a pretty disappointing choice for a title. I understand the sentiment behind it… We want to be the best lovers we can be to our partners, but this isn’t exactly man vs. machine. The robot overlords aren’t going to take over one Hitachi at a time. Well, maybe they are, but we can’t assume that. You need sources! Journalistic integrity!

Just as I try to comfort people who can’t make their partners come/or come themselves from blowjobs, there’s no reason to fear assistance. Everybody needs different stimulation to have an orgasm. Sure, people say you can try to vary your techniques to become less dependent on a particular way you’ve gotten used to, but not everyone can or even wants to, and that’s okay.

I think it’s really important to be excited about pleasing your partner and making them feel as good as you possibly can by being creative and enthusiastic, but that doesn’t mean competition with other, more direct stimulation. Besides… If you can hold the vibrator, you’re part of the process!

What do you think? Do you ever feel the need to be better than a vibrator/her hands? I understand that those kinds of feelings are really natural, but I don’t think that sensational article titles address the issue. And, for what it’s worth, their fifth point was actually the best… Just leave her alone. Seeing a woman have an orgasm is sexy, right? Feeling good is what we’re all after. :)

Why Do You Watch Porn?

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Camille Crimson having an orgasm

A while back, I found this really great piece about why women watch porn on Orgasm. What struck me is the fact that, a few things aside, I wouldn’t say there’s much difference between why women and men watch porn. We’re all curious, we all want to be aroused and entertained and we’d like to learn a thing or two if possible.

One difference I saw was the idea of a woman finding her partner’s stash and coming to porn that way. Has this ever happened to you, either as the person finding the porn or the person whose porn is found? Is this an embarrassing idea, or would you use this as a golden opportunity to find out what makes each other tick and how to explore it further?

I would actually say (especially based on some of the feedback I’ve had here over the years) that a lot of guys watch porn for the penis too, whether it’s to compare, to put themselves in his position or simply for a very natural arousal. I think that’s incredibly sexy.

So, what do you think? Are there more differences or similarities when it comes to why women and men watch porn? And really, why do you watch porn? Anything that didn’t make the list?

Handwashing Reminder Fail

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Hilarious fail poster

That is fair enough warning for me! This little gem has been making it around the internet for a while, sharing the disturbing truth about what happens if you don’t wash your hands… Lots of mutual handjobs, seemingly. I know it’s cold and flu season and you probably SHOULD wash your hands, but far be it from me to keep you from whatever makes you feel good. :P

Wash your hands or this will happen

But seriously, this poster is hilarious to me, and I’m not alone. Rocket News 24 caught wind of this important PSA and decided to run with it, creating similar drawings for everything from pressing the elevator button (above) to the in-store smartphone display (below) to explain just what is REALLY going on. With that logic, the Apple store is just a never-ending orgy. Definitely don’t lick anything.

Make sure to wash your hands before using a smartphone

I hope this made you laugh. The initial one is so well-meaning, but the little smartphone men waiting patiently are pretty great spin-offs. So, will you be washing your hands more often now? Or… Less often? No judgements either way. Just cover your mouth when you cough!

The Day the Earth Stopped Masturbating

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This is just twisted. It’s the ultimate question… Well, maybe not actually ultimate, but you know what I mean… Self-pleasure vs. humanity. I sincerely hope it never comes to this, or I can guarantee that The Art of Blowjob and Slow Motion Blowjob would go out of business. No one needs to be that tempted to commit atrocities.

I think this movie is actually really well-made. Leave it to the French to come up with something that is such a great blend of sinister and funny. As someone who loves pleasure, it sounds like quite a nightmare!

Of course, the video is really funny, but it also feels like a horror movie or thriller in a way… Just how far will we go for that elusive orgasm? There’s a pretty great twist ending, so I hope you watch the whole way through and then I have to know… What would you have done?