Are these “essentials” really at all essential?  I realize that I’m speaking from a particular viewpoint here, but when I saw this video, I was kind of surprised by everything she’s rattling off here without fundamentally explaining that these are very much frills as opposed to integral parts of a great blowjob.

Granted, she’s clearly marketing these products as part of her business, but this kind of advice has always rubbed me the wrong way because it makes it seem like bells and whistles are the most important part of a sexual encounter.  People who are looking up this kind of video on Youtube are generally seeking advice because they aren’t as confident as they’d like to be, so they’re not going to be in the best position to be skeptical when someone is trying to sell them something.

I’ve had fun with trying different things over the years, including a cock ring (not vibrating with weird little dangly parts) and a warm sip of tea or coffee or a cool glass of water is nice to try every so often, but the main thing that is amazing about a blowjob is the passion, connection and sensuality.  It’s not about tricks and how many things you can use to distract attention away from your mouth… It can be enjoyed just in its similicity.

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try new things and be adventurous, but you don’t need re-branded Pop Rocks or Altoids to do it.

What do you think?  Do any of these tips sound good?  Do you think that this video might give the impression that you need most/all of these things (maybe even at once) to be a real blowjob expert?  See?  This is why I try not to give very specific advice…  Just be creative, know yourself and try to get to know your partner too.