Reddit is great for a lot of things, but sometimes I have to say that their advice, though well-intentioned, is… Let’s just say interesting. Recently there was a thread where someone was asking what the boyfriends of Reddit would like as a random surprise. They actually came up with a number of options ranging from sweet to… Again, interesting.
Some of the ideas are nice and simple… Giving little hugs from behind, little surprise gifts, massages. That all sounds pretty normal. Then, washing him, which is a little more out there, but not exceptionally strange. It turns out a lot of men want food, which is fine, although one guy was extremely particular:
Tacos. Like, I want to have a Saturday where we’re driving to the mall or something, and suddenly she pulls out a whole tray of tacos from under the seat and is all like ‘SUPRISE! TACOS’ and then we would eat tacos.
Ladies: say it with tacos. But, there was one thing the original poster reminded everyone up front: “Please no one say BJ, i know thats at the top of everyones list.” And what ended up happening? Well, they spoke about blowjobs anyways. Extensively. So, if you don’t have a place to store tacos in your car, you can always show you care with a blowjob, even though we already know it’s the first thing the very large majority of men would like as a surprise. ;)
I am pretty fascinated by the penis. I mean, I wouldn’t be giving blowjobs online and talking about them so often if I didn’t have a strong interest in them… And so I always find it neat when I learn a few new facts about the penis, as I haven with this article from Alternet… I knew some, but there are others that are pretty new to me!
Of course, some things are more obvious, like that you shouldn’t smoke if you want stronger erections… But there are others, like the fact that the penis used to have spines and a bone! That is kind of terrifying, and thankfully it’s ages in the past. I don’t know how easy giving a sensual blowjob would be to something so rigid and pointy. That’d snag the tongue! Oh, and how foreskins can be used to grow significantly more skin for cosmetic testing… Penises are magical!
There are some interesting animal facts… Specifically about the elephant’s prehensile penis. Would you like it if you could control your penis to do things besides sex? I can kind of imagine it now. Or you could have four heads, like the echidna! That sounds a little distracting. Maybe most disturbing is the fish who has a penis… on his head! I don’t know what to say about that… I’m sure that is human men has this issue, they’d probably just always be head butting. :P
I’d love to know… What’s your favourite penis fact of all? Or are there any penis modifications (like the ones listed here, or others) that would be especially awesome in your life?
This is a piece from the Good Men Project that I’ve had on the back burner for a while and I figured it’d be a nice contrast from yesterday’s silly and sweet video. This is a collection of five things about men that women don’t necessarily know or understand, and I think it’s a good one. It shows a lot about the things we expect from men in society, plus a little humour because, well, you have to lighten things up a tad.
What maybe stuck out most for me was the first item: that men don’t receive enough compliments. That’s really sad. I try to give as good as I get with Mike because I want him to know that I feel lucky to have him, so I want to make him feel handsome and smart and capable with my words. I unfortunately understand how rare this is. We assume compliments are for women, who are meant to be pretty, and forget that reassurance and kindness can be good for everyone. Have you experienced a noticeable lack of compliments in your life? Do you think that this impacts your self-esteem and maybe even makes it harder to feel comfortable in your body and your sex life?
The other segments ring true along the same veins… Men aren’t all about appearance, there’s a lot innate in their nature that they have to fight against and that there are unfair standards to which they are held as well, specifically having to do with financial success. We think so often that there are these absolutes about men and women, and they hurt all of us. I hope that you’ll read this as men and feel a little more understood and free to be more yourselves. I hope that women read this and remember that we’re all impacted by the way society expects us to behave and we could all do well to be more aware of it.
I like to talk about how to make men feel more sexually confident a lot here, showing that there’s nothing wrong with their bodies, their sexualities, their desires… But I think that showing understanding of other sides of what it is to be a man can really help with that. How about you? What do you think? Oh, and as for the fifth segment… Have you ever been given a hard time for adjusting yourself? :P
Here’s a silly song for a Tuesday afternoon. It’s cute, extremely cheesy and about a vibrator. Who among us hasn’t felt the glowing anticipation of enjoying something sexy for the first time? Maybe not necessarily a vibrator, but perhaps getting excited about going home to watch a new video, try out a new position or even explore a totally new side to your sexual self.
Maybe you don’t quite feel overwhelmed enough to sing like Michelle here does, but I know that there’s nothing quite as lovely as letting your enthusiasm bubble over the moments before you expand your sexual horizons and allow yourself to be pleasured in a whole new way.
What makes you feel this way? What do you do to get this feeling of excitement and novelty in your life from time to time? I hope you all get to experience it soon. For me, I love bringing home lingerie or sometimes even a new toy. It’s so nice to feel the thrill of something like this.
This piece from Good Men Project really piqued my attention, so I figured I’d share and see if you felt the same way. The idea is that, while a lot of relationships end up lacking in sexual passion, it’s not exclusively the fault of the person who is seen as holding back or withholding sex.
In fact, it’s not just about relationships, really. It’s just a shift of consciousness where the sexuality is in our hands, regardless of anyone else. Steve Horsmon (the author) said it best:
The sexual epiphany I am talking about is the point in a man’s life when thinking, wondering, and worrying changes into leading, romancing and enjoying. This epiphany does not just happen with age. It must be earned. It is simple but not easy. If it were easy, every guy would be doing it and would be happy with his sex life.
Regardless of whether it’s a man or a woman having this epiphany, I think it’s pretty important, and even outside of sex. It’s the realization that no one else is responsible for your happiness if you’re not willing to be an active participant too. You create your own magnetism by being genuinely excited about life, about yourself and about your partner. I think it’s a pretty lovely way to live.
What do you think? Do you think this all sounds to simple, or are there nuggets of truth in there? Read the rest of the article and let me know!
I don’t even know what to say about this. Apparently Jonah Falcon, AKA the man with the world’s biggest penis, decided that the best way to spread the word of his sizeable member is through the majesty of song. And this is the result… I can’t say that I think it’ll be the summer hit of 2013.
Despite how catchy this song may or may not be, I don’t think that many men would want to be in his position. With 13.5 inches when hard, I can’t imagine many people who would be able to take that on, regardless of what the song indicates. But, who knows, maybe this video will attract a few extra intrepid partners.
Hopefully this gets a little giggle… It’s kind of a silly song, and there are some very gratuitous shots of his bulge… I don’t think I’d be able to perform the art of a quality blowjob on someone that sizeable, and I think that’s just fine. I’m also not sure I’d be able to keep a straight face after seeing the video, anyways. ;)