Monthly Archives: September 2013

Faking and Fantasy

Sexy redhead give a blowjob in glasses

I love learning a few sexy new facts, and I like them even better when a few of them are entirely focused on what goes on in the mind.  After all, as much as the physical is very, very fun, a tremendous amount of it is informed by what goes on in your brain.  So, two aspects really intrigued me about Jezebel’s recent little roundup on sexual findings.

The first thing that really pinged to me is exactly how many men fake orgasms…  Apparently it’s up to 67% when it comes to divorced men.  Obviously there’s a lot of talk about women faking and the reasons around that, but there’s also a lot of expectation put on men to be able to have orgasms…  It’s linked to virility, but it’s also seen as manly to want lots of sex and to be able to come on demand, but not too soon or too slowly.  Sometimes it’s just not going to happen.  So, I have to ask…  Have any of you (divorced or otherwise!) ever faked an orgasm?  What was your reasoning, or what keeps you from doing it?

The other thing that sounded incredibly cool here is that women (though maybe men too) are able to get aroused, sometimes to the brink of orgasm, just by imagining being stimulated.  The brain is a sex organ, but it may actually be able to arouse us right through various stages of desire and fulfillment.  Has anything like this ever happened to you?  I know that I can imagine my nipples being played with and I can experience some pretty intense sensations…  And I certainly salivate before I’m ever around a penis if I’m thinking about a really visceral blowjob experience…  It’s pretty phenomenal.  How about you?

What this really means is that we can and should be thinking more…  Fantasizing, letting our minds wander and experiencing that as part of our sexual expression both alone and with a partner.  It can make for more arousal, more orgasms…  Even though the latter is definitely not the be all and end all.  It’s just about enjoying yourself, whatever form that takes.

Intimate Silence

Camille Crimson gets a sexy facial

We all know that moment when everything just becomes quiet around you and you’re entirely focused on the immediate sensations happening in your body.  Anything else is just noise…  Literally.  This is a really beautiful kind of intimacy to me.  I just want to be close, focused and present for every little feeling and look and second.  This is what it feels like when love and lust are in perfect harmony.

This update is called Intimate Silence, and that’s what it is.  Sure, there’s music, but the atmosphere is one of almost suspension.  Not suspense, just a moment in time completely untouched by any interference.  It’s so amazing to get to experience connection in a way where everything else drops out.  Capturing that on film is just even more amazing.  Thinking that I’ll always be able to look on these videos and photos is wonderful.  It’s a time capsule for my relationship.  To think about it that way…  I’m so lucky!

Please let me know if you’ve felt this silence, check out a bit more about the update and then watch the video…  Because it dissipates at the end in the most delightful, silly, sweet way.  I hope it’ll make you smile as much as it did for us.  It’s a classic moment between us.

Waves of Heat

Having sex on the kitchen table with Camille Crimson

I didn’t want to let this slip any of you by…  You know that I love cooking things up, but the kitchen is much more than just a place of culinary creation for me.  Mike and I had some blisteringly hot sex on the kitchen table and it’s front and centre on a recent update to my brand new site: Waves of Heat.

Even though it’s starting to get chillier in Montreal, the kitchen is always pretty hot with the amount of cooking that goes on here, but yet we found a way to kick it up a few more degrees.  I stretched out on the table and hiked up my shirt to expose my breasts as he slammed into me over and over again.  To up the ante, I started playing with myself, feeling unbelievably turned on by the mix of beautiful stimulation.

It’s wonderful that we both know our bodies so well, because it lead to a really unbelievable orgasm which you can hear loud and clear, ringing out as the video comes to an end.  I’d love to know what you thought about this one…  Do you like the primal, almost animalistic hunger that comes from throwing down and having sex outside where it’s usually situated?  I know I do!

Sex Box

Now, this is pretty interesting.  And no, it’s not an XBOX that you can have sex with…  There’s a new show coming out on a popular UK television station called Sex Box, which aims to “reclaim sex from pornography” and it has me thinking beyond entertainment value…  Is that a good idea?  Or, rather, is it even necessary?

A huge aspect of this for me is what exactly constitutes porn…  Do they mean every single existing pornographic video, including what I do?  Or are they talking about mainstream porn?  It seems that most people are REALLY talking about mainstream porn, and that shouldn’t be the only representation of sex, to be sure…  But how intellectualized/fancy does filmed sex have to be before it’s reclaimed?  Can the performers be paid?  Can the performers make a living on the videos they’ve made?  I’m sure the couples in this TV show at least got paid to take part.

As far as I understand, the couples have sex in a fairly small box (the sex box!) and then talk about their sex life, both immediate and (I assume) more long-range with a bunch of experts.  I can’t tell if they actually show any footage from the box or if it’s just a gimmick/way to get the couples thinking very actively about sex, but the discussion of sex seems to be the forefront of the show.  And that’s good!  We should all be talking more about sex.  But can’t porn be a part of that?

It’s the same as it ever was, at least lately…  Various pop culture companies try to distance themselves from the concept of porn, explaining why their version of filming sex is different and better, but it seems like these people have very narrow concepts of the adult industry and assume that sex can’t be both real and on film unless it’s shot their particular way.  Of course, it’s hard to identify where that line is…  For instance, I’d consider The Art of Blowjob and Slow Motion Blowjob to be porn (however beautiful!) while I would consider the new site to be more focused on the erotic and the personal, with sex as a part of that.

So, what does this mean?  Can varying levels of porn and “non-porn” sex videos live in harmony?  I think the solution is more and variety, not less and exclusivity.  What do you think?

Hilarious Steps to Have More Sex (For Men!)

Camille Crimson having passionate sex with her boyfriend

You like sex, don’t you?  Well, you probably wouldn’t be here if you weren’t at least intrigued by the concept.  Cracked has 4 tips to help men get more sex, but it’s not at all what you think or what you might expect from them.  I think a lot of people think of Cracked as pure comedy, and in many ways it is, but this is comedic advice with a heavy dose of reminding men to treat women with respect.

Their points are as follows: treat her with respect forever, don’t JUST be nice — be an interesting human being, don’t think that sex is owed to you and, perhaps most poignantly, don’t read advice on how to get women/have more sex.  This is some really great and nuanced advice couched in hilarious references to everything from a fake Robocop script to anthropomorphized ice cream treats.  It occasionally veers into fake misogynist lingo, reading like the usual sex tips that men get, but it’s actually just very positive and woman-friendly concepts being fed to people who might not be expecting it.

What do you think of this?  What if we infiltrated all sorts of traditional vestiges of manliness?  Is this a spoon full of sugar to help the medicine go down, or is this hiding the medicine in something so they’ll not even realize it until it’s too late?  By medicine, I mean realistic sex and relationship advice that goes against what men are usually taught.  Maybe we could extend this to women’s magazines, too!  But who knows if you could continue to sell issue after issue and get the hits you need if you were always talking about respect…  Maybe you could!  Thoughts?

What’s Poppin’?

Delicious spicy treat for redhead Camille Crimson

Sometimes Mike and I like to have fun with the narrative of a video.  A lot of our videos are just a simple, straight-forward look at things, but once in a while we like to spice things up…  Literally.  One of the treats that Mike makes for me that I really love are his jalapeño poppers.  They’re delicious and they involve bacon…  Plus, they were the inspiration for this cute update on the new site!  What’s not to like?

Well, so, there is one thing not to like…  They’re so spicy that they literally make me cry.  My eyes water from the sheer heat, but I enjoy them anyways.  Sometimes it’s worth it, especially when he makes them for me!  I just can’t resist, kind of like this weird otter and his watermelon:

It's an otter eating watermelon

And that’s the first and last time I’ll compare myself to an otter who enjoys (or does not enjoy) fruit.  Probably.  Hopefully you’ll enjoy this video, which is a little slice of life from our home…  He only wanted to make me happy, but we wound up with tears!  Do any of you have this reaction to spicy things?  I guess it could be worse!  😛