I love learning a few sexy new facts, and I like them even better when a few of them are entirely focused on what goes on in the mind. After all, as much as the physical is very, very fun, a tremendous amount of it is informed by what goes on in your brain. So, two aspects really intrigued me about Jezebel’s recent little roundup on sexual findings.
The first thing that really pinged to me is exactly how many men fake orgasms… Apparently it’s up to 67% when it comes to divorced men. Obviously there’s a lot of talk about women faking and the reasons around that, but there’s also a lot of expectation put on men to be able to have orgasms… It’s linked to virility, but it’s also seen as manly to want lots of sex and to be able to come on demand, but not too soon or too slowly. Sometimes it’s just not going to happen. So, I have to ask… Have any of you (divorced or otherwise!) ever faked an orgasm? What was your reasoning, or what keeps you from doing it?
The other thing that sounded incredibly cool here is that women (though maybe men too) are able to get aroused, sometimes to the brink of orgasm, just by imagining being stimulated. The brain is a sex organ, but it may actually be able to arouse us right through various stages of desire and fulfillment. Has anything like this ever happened to you? I know that I can imagine my nipples being played with and I can experience some pretty intense sensations… And I certainly salivate before I’m ever around a penis if I’m thinking about a really visceral blowjob experience… It’s pretty phenomenal. How about you?
What this really means is that we can and should be thinking more… Fantasizing, letting our minds wander and experiencing that as part of our sexual expression both alone and with a partner. It can make for more arousal, more orgasms… Even though the latter is definitely not the be all and end all. It’s just about enjoying yourself, whatever form that takes.