Today I was very much reminded that one of the things I want to do with this blog is to normalize a whole bunch of different aspects of male sexuality and show people that there are valuable reasons to be just as sensitive to its issues as we try to be with women’s sexuality. Rye of Uncommon Appetites took to their blog to explain a phenomenon that had been happening to him lately… He’s been experiencing ejaculation sooner than he would like.
Essentially, his masturbatory habits have become less frequent over time for a variety of reasons and he’s left with a lot more pent-up sexual energy. He loves pleasing his lovely partner Violet with his hands/mouth/toys, but she also loves it when they have penetrative sex, so they eventually get to a place where the penetrative sex just doesn’t last as long as they want.
This is where things get especially amazing… They spoke about it together and came up with a solution that totally worked for both of them. Instead of retreating out of shame or confusion or continuing on, just thinking that something might one day change, they took action. What did they figure out? He just needed to come once and get it out of the way and then he’d have a much easier time afterwards.
So, they went right to penetrative sex, they had a bit of fun and he ejaculated, then they kissed and played around until he was ready for round two, which was exactly what they needed. Perfect, right?
On top of making very sexy videos and sharing lovely glimpses into their lives, Violet+Rye are also real examples of making sex work. We all go through peaks and valleys, we all have things that sometimes interfere with the natural progression we’d like, but there are ways to communicate, explore, try things and work out a solution.
If you’re having any issues with any degree of premature ejaculation, this is a really great strategy to try. Who knows? It might work for you!
Have you ever had a little hurdle to get over, sexually speaking? What did you do and what did you try?