Today brings another Q+A question from one of our more verbose (and rightfully so — don’t change a thing!) commenters:
One of the oldest complaints against porn is that it teaches, encourages, or even forces the viewer to objectify the actors: people end up watching tits and asses, cocks and cunts, rather than individual human beings having sex with other individual human beings. And then that objectification turns into guilt, and insensitivity, and violence, et cetera, et cetera.
Obviously, your work fights against objectification in every way: you emphasize your individuality, and your strict relationship with Mike, and the importance of personhood and respect in porn. And this blog is one of your champion elements in letting us see and know you as an individual, not just a gorgeous body and a talented mouth.
And yet, at the end of the day, a lot of people are still jacking off to your sensual beauty. How do you feel about the idea of people becoming objects in porn– even beautiful porn– and is it a bad thing, a good thing, or simply a neutral fact of life?
I think it’s a neutral fact of life, and I think that when it comes to the actual act of watching porn and masturbating, we can’t help but often get that kind of tunnel vision where we’re really focused on the immediate sexuality in front of us. Even in passionate lovemaking, there’s a shift when you’re close to orgasm where it’s more about enjoying the stimulation than thinking about what a good person your partner is, even if that’s somewhere on your mind throughout most of the experience.
What I actually try to do is show that, while I am a mouth and breasts and nice hair and all that, I’m a person as well. The two don’t need to be mutually exclusive. There are times when I can be entertaining with thoughts on sexuality, Scotch recommendations and geeky moments and there are also times where I can be entertaining as a sexual woman, either as a whole or as parts to be focused upon for part of the pleasure.
So, I don’t want to be exclusively objectified. I don’t want people to think that I don’t have value outside of what I look like or what I do on camera, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with reverting to a very basic way of viewing me in the heat of the moment. We can’t be guilting people for their natural mindset when they’re doing something so primal.
How about you guys? What do you think when you’re watching porn? Do you end up focusing on parts of the person, or are you always somewhat aware of the sum of those parts?