I’m very happy to be back and writing my second installment of the Camille Crimson Guide to Owning and Operating a Penis. Springing off of the idea of talking about things which people ask me a lot, I wanted to tackle another important issue regarding maintenance: grooming. Specifically today I’m going to be addressing body hair. It’s a contentious topic for both men and women, but hopefully I’ll be able to shed some light on the situation.
The way I see it, there are three ways to be: totally natural, trimmed or bare. People often ask my my preference, but I can’t really say I have one. Mike likes to try out different things depending on his mood and I’m quite happy with whatever he decides on. The fact is, a lot of women are just like me. If we love the penis in question and we don’t have a strong preference, we just go for it regardless.
If you have a way that you really prefer to be, just be that way. If it makes you feel amazing to be smooth, do it! If you love feeling natural and free, that’s the way to be. If you like to stay trimmed, trim away! Some people know what they want and link their hair to their sexuality, so if you’re one of those guys, enjoy it and find partners who like it the same way or who don’t have any major preferences, as is the case with many women anyways.
When it comes to things like preparing for a first encounter, a lot of people opt for smooth, but that’s not necessarily the best idea. It’s a fairly polarizing look and, while a lot of women enjoy it, a lot also aren’t really into it. If you love being smooth and that’s who you are, then go for it, but if you’re doing it just because you think she’s going to love it, that might not be the case. Especially if you’re a novice shaver/waxer, you can get irritation that will end up being annoying for you and not particularly sexy.
The best thing I can say to keep a happy medium is to do a little trimming if you think your natural hair could risk getting in the way of a blowjob. Now, that’s not to say that you can’t get a perfectly amazing blowjob with totally natural pubic hair, but you know what I mean. If you think it’s likely that some might get caught in her throat and ruin the mood, it’s good to give it a little once-over. As long as you’re not trimming too close, it shouldn’t be at all itchy and you’ll be good to go!
Once you’re seeing someone more stably/in a relationship, it’s definitely a nice idea to ask her if she has any preferences, assuming you don’t have strong preferences for yourself. Maybe she won’t care, but she might also have some ideas. Be open to it, do some research if you end up trying any new hair removal processes and be open to trying it once in a while. Just because she likes something doesn’t mean you have to only be that way. It could always be a sexy surprise for special occasions.
Finally, I’ve just got to say that, if you’re expecting your partner to have a certain style of pubic hair, you should be amenable as well, but no one should ever force anyone to do what they don’t want to do. Ultimately, it’s your body and what you say goes. Hair may seem trivial, but if you’ve got sensitive skin, not everything may be totally doable. Know your limits, respect your partner’s limits and be amenable within them. That way, you’ll all be happy with your hair.
I’ve heard from several women (and, I think, the “Vagina Monologues”) that ample pubic hair can serve the very helpful function of cushioning pelvises from too much banging and bruising during sex… I don’t usually thrust that hard, but it’s an interesting idea to consider. I do believe in “basic maintenance” trimming simply to prevent tonsil attacks during oral– there’s just no sexy way to say “excuse me for a moment, but I’m choking on your pube, and I’m worried that if I swallow it, it will later come bursting out of my chest like an alien baby and destroy the world.”
Meanwhile, I have never attempted a completely smooth genital shave/wax (only a basic attack with the beard-trimmer on my electric razor), but I’d like to try it for aesthetic purposes. One of my previous partners would surprise me by getting waxed every few months, and I absolutely loved the [48 hours of] perfect smoothness, and also loved seeing her vulva in perfect unobstructed detail. But she also explained how painful and ridiculous the waxing process was, so I never asked for or expected it— I don’t think I’d have the courage to inflict that kind of pain on my penis or scrotum, and like you said, Camille, it’s a 2-way-street.
Finally, I’d be happier with my pubic hair in general if it didn’t specifically grow ON my penis. According to a survey (not that we trust such things), 60% of men have hair growing at least partway up their penises, which is rumored to be encouraged by circumcision (it pulls up skin from the base of the shaft, but let’s not get into politics). Since my penis [hypothetically] gets the most action, it’s the one part I’d most like to keep exfoliated, and yet it’s also the most sensitive to shave. Alas!
Anyway, great article yet again, Camille, and a wonderful job of emphasizing tolerance and mutual respect without splitting hairs.
Oh no! Alien baby! That would be a bad way to ruin the mood.
I think the idea of enjoying something but not asking for it unduly is a great rule of thumb, and it should be the same level of respect on both sides.
That sounds tough about the shaft hair. Mike tends to be fairly smooth there, but I could certainly see how that would be frustrating, and most epilation would make it irritated… Have you tried shaving? Then again, I’m not sure how good shaft stubble would feel for anyone involved… I’d say, try out a few options and see what works best for you.
I sympathise with Cal. I too like to keep myself in trim in the boxer shorts department and also suffer a hairy penis. I regularly shave it – tried waxing once, ouch. On thing though, guys. Girls would prefer not to go down on a stubbly cock so do it regularly. Or even better, ask your girl to do it for you. Now that really is amazing!
I think you’ll find that a lot of women don’t really care, honestly. Hopefully you run into a few like us.
I’m with you Cal,at least keep the hair off the shaft!The women I have been with are delighted when they found that I am a shaver.It feels cleaner and certainly looks better.Men should be mindful that stubble can be painful when you bury your penis and make contact with sensitive skin.So,I go bald on long enough to avoid the micro inch stubble.
Stubble is definitely a point of contention, so I’m glad you’re keeping that in mind. It’s so interesting to see people from different approaches coming out of the woodwork to talk about their experiences. As much as I talk a lot and think a lot about these things, the comments inform me a tremendous amount.
I want him trimmed, not shaved. As Cal pointed out: pubic hair is a natural dry lubricant and it not only helps during thrusting but also defends your intimate areas from bugs and fungi. Still, when I desire to lick his balls down then all my passion would blow up
with all his natural fur in the way of my tongue.
Years ago, he once pinched himself while trimming. Oh, that was painful, guess more painful for me seeing him suffer. Ever since, he’s most careful while trimming with the hair clipper, always having the 3mm attachment on! All it takes is not to leave curly hair in my way, that sticks!
As for my part, he has no preference when licking me, but always enjoys being my “hairdresser” down there. Which I gladly allow him. Styling sends a message, be it up or down, nope?
Licks and kisses,
Doris
PS – Last but not least, you wrote yet another great and informative article, Camille, Thank you!
It’s always great when people can be open about this, both with themselves and each other. I’m so glad I can facilitate a nice little discussion here. It’s really important to find the right balance, I find. It sounds like you have!
Oh, Doris, it’s so true– genital shaving injuries are among the most exquisite pain in the world! Being poor and without the proper grooming tools, I use the beard-trimmer on my electric razor to shave, and I can’t count the number of times I’ve accidentally nicked, cut, pulled, or pinched my penis and scrotum. Instant blood, hours (sometimes days) of pain. Alas!
I hope you invest in a real trimmer at some point… It’s worth it not to get so hurt.