Yes, this is a guide to owning and operating a penis, but, well, the balls are RIGHT THERE! Just hanging out, right next to your penis. I will be talking a fair amount about balls over the course of this guide, but today I wanted to specifically talk about how you feel about them and negotiating the level of attention your balls get.
Now, your ball-related self-confidence is important, because it directly impacts how you’ll feel about asking your partner to play with them… It’s interesting. Even though you wouldn’t think about it, or at least I wouldn’t really, but a lot of guys also come to me with concerns about the way their balls look. Too big, too small, too low-hanging… Let me just say, there’s no universal ball standard among women that I know of.
Balls of all kinds are great. Some of us may have types we find especially hot, but I really can’t think of anyone expressing distaste about a specific look. That said, there are a lot of women who are kind of squeamish about them, and that’s where, emboldened by the knowledge that we’re not nearly as concerned about your balls as you are, you can take charge and find a way to gently introduce them into your sex life.
First, a little note: wash up! Same as the penis, your balls need a little attention in the shower, so soap up good, especially if you’re angling for something sexy. Also, as with our pubic hair discussion, feel free to trim if you’re worried that strays could get in the way. Especially when it comes to balls, hair factors in with people who are less accustomed to them. You don’t need to be bare, just potentially a little more under control. There’s nothing sexy about watching someone stop their enthusiastic licking to try to cough up a hairball. A little prep beforehand and you’re likely to get a nice, warm… reception.
You should know what you want for your balls. If you don’t want anything, that’s totally fine. Make sure it’s communicated to your partner. Some people really don’t like the feeling for whatever reason, and that’s totally your call. If you do like ball stimulation, figure out what kind you like. Do you like a little or a lot? Do you like it really gentle or more rough? Do you like lips, tongue, fingertips, palms, the whole mouth? There are so many different mixes of sensations. You can adjust your limits, of course, but having an idea of what you want is really helpful for everyone involved.
A lot of women are reticent to pay much attention to the balls because they know how sensitive they can be. You need to encourage her to give it a try, but don’t push her to go as far as your limits are right away. Let her dip her toes into the ball play pool rather than pushing her into the deep end. Let her caress you first with her fingertips, then cup them gently in her hands. Progress to some light kisses along the seam, then gentle licking… Maybe that’s all you want. That isn’t too scary!
If you’re into sucking or (controlled) squeezing, you might need to let her get there on her own time. You should both start out carefully with that, because sometimes people also don’t know their own strength. It’s always good to err on the side of caution and amp up rather than go too hard right off the bat.
Remind her that your balls are where your cum comes from. It’s a very erogenous zone and a very erotic place. Playing with your balls is like turning up the heat, simmering you until you reach that boiling point. Talk about it. Tell her how good it feels and how great she is at it. It’s that kind of encouragement that will get you both really loving it.
So, how about you? How much attention do your balls like? And how do you feel about your balls? They’re an often neglected area, and I always like to hear about them getting more love.