You raise such an important point in this response, Camille. I’m not into rimming, but making every sex act include an affirmation of the other person’s importance is crucial. If you’re [X]ing somebody simply because you like to [X], then they’re just going to feel used, an anonymous tool for your selfish pleasure— even if your intention was their pleasure. But if you communicate clearly that you want to [X] them because you love THEM, that you’re giving them pleasure because they are uniquely attractive to you, that your pleasure is fundamentally connected to their pleasure… well, that’s pretty much the hottest thing on earth. Whether it’s analingus, cunnilingus, or just an old-fashioned french kiss, there’s no bigger turn-on than convincing someone that they are the only person in the entire world you want to [X] right now.